Haggling in Ireland & UK

Why do clients feel it is ok to haggle?  Yesterday I had a chap text me and ask if I would reduce my rate to 80e for 30 minutes.  I said no.  I couldn’t see the point in being less direct, as he might think it was ok.  He then said ok, 100e and I said, yes that is fine.  However for this he now wanted 45 minutes, but he would bring coffee and pastries (it was morning).  Again I said no.  A little later he said ok to 100e, but if he had not cum at the 30 minutes stage, would I let him continue?

At this point I told him that his custom was not welcome and that I did not appreciate the implication behind the question.  I told him that he should have checked my reviews and trusted me to provide a good service for the money I am asking for.  In reply he said that many women had let him down, that he had left feeling unfulfilled and he couldn’t afford to spend money on a bad experience.  This is fair enough, but we also get plenty of time wasters and men that stop us from working, just because they wanted a bit of titillation on the phone.  We both have to trust each other for this to work.

He apologised and asked if he could come to see me at the rate I had agreed to, 100e for 30 minutes and as it was quiet I said yes and gave him the benefit of the doubt.  20 minutes later he was with me and a further 25 minutes later he was lay on my bed flushed and spent. We had a cuddle and he left just short of his 30 minutes asking me if he could see me again before I left Galway.

Isn’t it a shame that he nearly didn’t get to see me, because of all the haggling?  Isn’t it a shame that he made me feel like I was going to try and mug him of his money and didn’t care if he enjoyed himself or not, when he had never even met me before?  Isn’t it a shame that he didn’t have faith in the reviews, even though I have 50+ from all different sources that all show my worth and care for what I do?

I had a look around the adverts this morning, to see who else is working in the area and was quite surprised at just how many Escorts were working at 80e for 30 minutes.  There are 42 ladies touring here at the moment and less than a handful are charging 100e, in comparison to the majority being 80e or even less.  I can understand why someone might look at my profile and think it is too much to spend when they can see someone else for less, but if this man is typical and now holds a fear of not getting what he wants to the point of almost insulting someone he has never met, well… maybe that is your answer?  He has met the ladies offering the lower rates and not been satisfied.

What am I trying to say?  Yes you do have to live within your means, but for the sake of 20e, is it worth not seeing the lady you want to see?  Is it not better to read her profile, look at her reviews and talk to her on the phone and if she sounds and seems to be what you are looking for then invest that little extra? 

I can’t help but wonder in this case, with a man who originally wanted to pay me 80e, how all of a sudden he has enough money to see me twice in one week?  Is it really a matter of can’t afford, or just doesn’t want to pay more than he would for one of the girls that didn’t do it for him?

So… this morning after a fairly quiet day yesterday I am wondering should I be reducing my rates in line with the 80e girls or stand my ground, because I know that the service I provide is excellent?  I won’t see more than 4 or 5 clients in a day, because I do find orgasms and gushing physically draining and I just couldn’t do it and that is what happens, because I completely release myself to the moment.  So the answer is no, because for me to do that I would have to give up Escorting, because I would not earn enough to do it.  I would just stop coming to Ireland if that was the case.

You Irish seem to love your Irish and English girls.  Just think about the consequences of what you are asking when you haggle.  We don’t come from a 3^rd world Country.  Things are expensive back in England and we have bills to pay and lots of costs in touring, so please, please don’t haggle.  Choose wisely, do your research and get the experience you want with the lady that you can trust not to let you down.  Show a little respect and you will get it back two fold and all for just 20e extra!

Prostate Massage

This week I experienced another first.  I had invited in a new client and we were generally getting to know each others bodies and having some fun when I noticed he was particularly enjoying having his balls played with, then this developed as my hand went a little lower I realised he was encouraging me to run around his anal area.  I don't generally do anal play (either way), it's not something I actively enjoy, but I could see how turned on he was by it and didn't really want to spoil it for him.  I decided to ask him outright if he was sensitive down there and his face lit up and he said he enjoyed it very much.

After a little debate with myself I told him I had some gloves and would he like me to get one so I could give him a little more attention, but I did also tell him that I was relatively inexperienced, so he would have to guide me.  I got a glove, put it on and added a little lube to the end and very gently started to massage the outer ring of his anal area.  I could see he was enjoying the experience very much.  He then encouraged me to go a little deeper and a little deeper until my full finger was inserted and gently rubbing away.

Not being experienced I thought about the positioning of my g-spot and what works for me and aimed for around that area.  This is centrally located around the middle of where my now brazillion is located and happily it seemed to hit the spot perfectly.  I could feel him wriggling under my touch and so I decided to up the anti and took him in my mouth, while maintaining a constant rubbing action with my finger.  The results were amazing when finally he told me he was going to come and being new to me I quickly swapped my mouth for my hand and brought him to completion.  Obviously I know that he came due to the sticky mess he made, but at the same time he came outwardly I felt a pressure and release around his prostrate and for the first time in my life felt a man cum via his prostrate.  It was such an exhiliating experience and I was so pleased with myself and his reaction, it was totally amazing.

Being curious to exactly what had happened I looked it up on the internet and this is the information that I found...

The G-Spot or Sacred Spot of a man is his prostate gland. Tantric philosophy considers the G-Spot a man's emotional sex center. Massaging the man's prostate releases tremendous amounts of emotional and physical stress. Coupled with stimulation of his penis or "lingam", massaging his prostate can be extremely pleasurable and healing to the man. Since the most direct way to massage the man's Sacred Spot is through his anus, it takes time to adjust to being penetrated in this way. It is not for every man. The benefits are many and the pleasure can be very intense. For tantric partners, lovers or those otherwise genuinely comfortable with one another, massaging the sacred spot can be a powerful experience. Not only in terms of ecstatic pleasure for the "receiver", but in the sexual empowerment it bestows on the "giver".

The walnut sized prostate gland is located directly underneath the bladder, not far from the internal root of the penis (see diagram). As can be seen, the gland is in close proximity to the rectal wall, allowing for easy access through the anus.

Why is prostate massage pleasurable? There are number of reasons:

Ejaculation reflex sensation

No matter which method is used it is not possible to touch the prostate directly. The nearest indirect access is through the rectal wall, which means that there is still a membrane in the way. This is somewhat akin to the inhibiting sensitivity a glove. Despite this restriction the lobes of the prostrate are highly sensitive to pressure. An array of sensations may be produced by pressing, rubbing or by means of stroking the gland through the rectal wall. The most profound of these feelings is similar to that sublime sensation which is normally felt during ejaculation, as the prostate begins pumping semen.
 

 Would I do it again?  Yes and very happy to.  I've never seen such a completely overwhelming and totally absorbing reaction before, which seemed close to the times that I have a deep orgasm.  The type of orgasm that touches every fibre of your body and brings the emotions to the surface.  If I can achieve that for you, then I am more than happy to do it.  So it seems that yet another one of my bounderies has been lifted and I'm so pleased that I took the step to do this for the client, as he was a lovely chap and I really enjoyed his company.  A real cup half full type.

I warn you that I am very new to this though, so please do give guidance and have patience if you like it done in a particular way.  I also need to make sure I have some gloves with me, so let me know on booking if this is a service you would be interested in.

Another string to my bow!

Kate x

Massage, Essential Oils & Aromatherapy

Massage is something that I offered with much trepidation when I first started Escorting, but as time has gone by I have not only grown in confidence, but come to realise just how it can totally transform the experience, relaxing both the body and mind.

While I was touring Dublin not so long ago, I was lucky enough to be booked by a lovely gentleman who offered to give me an hour long massage.  He started by producing some oil that he had personally put together and requested a bowl of hot water to put the bottle of oil into.  Then he lay me on my tummy and proceeded to gently massage my whole body from top to bottom.  Admittedly this was a little spicier than your regular massage, as he combined it with a little tantric massage, which was very sensual.  This finally ended with a sarong being put over me and slowly, very gently past along my body, which was so sensitive at this point, I could feel every inch, as it moved across my body.

I knew then that this was something I needed to offer my clients and finally 2 months later, I have put my thoughts into action.  Here is what I propose...

Stimulating Aromatheric Bath

 

The booking will start with a relaxing bath with the scent of essential oils.  The oils will be selected dependent on your needs.  I will be offering baths and massages to combat several of the stresses that both your mind and body may be under with the rigours of a busy and full life.

 

The bathroom will be candle lit with the lights off, to give you a truely relaxing atmosphere and you will be submerged for approx 10 minutes.  During this time you can take the bath by yourself and use it to empty your mind of the days stresses and strains or I can join you in the bath, sitting behind you and giving you a shoulder and head massage.

 

 

After the bath I will help dry you off with a large egyptian cotton towel and you will come through to the bedroom where there will be another towel lay out on the bed for you to lie on.

 

You can select what kind of treatment you would like from:

 

Stimulating poor circulation

Loneliness

Mental fatigue

Low self-Esteem

Poor Memory

Exhaustion & Fatigue

Stress & Anxiety

 

The oils used will be specifically selected for you and your needs, starting from the bath onward.

 

Massage

 

You can choose from a 10 minute massage as a 'quick fix' to your immediate needs or a 40 minute massage, which will be more in depth and give you a longer lasting feeling of well being.  The first option will concentrate on your back, buttox and legs, while the longer massage will work both the back and the front.  The massage is meant to relax and stimulate.  It is not a sports massage for deep tissue manipulation, but much more gentle and sensual.

 

 

What makes this massage unique?

 

That would be me!  I will be taking a much more 'hands on' approach and the option of oral gratification is also on offer.  This includes reverse oral on myself if you enjoy giving as much as recieving.  A truely happy ending that should leave you feeling stimulated from top to toe and ready to face the world with renewed vigour.

 

When will this new service be available?

 

I will be offering this service as from November.  Once I have assessed my expenses and done a little training to make sure that I am offering the best service possible, I will add this information to the blog, so keep an eye out.  Please note the 'happy ending' is optional.  If you would just like the bath and massage and to be with a woman who is happy with her body and sensuality, that is absolutely fine.

 

Your opinions and ideas with this at it's infancy are very welcome and appreciated.  Please do leave comments, as they could be vital to the service offered at this point, before I start in November.

 

Kate x



Halloween!!!

Please vote for me!!!  I have entered the Adultwork Halloween picture competition and literally just submitted 26 pictures.  All free to see, but I would love you to vote for me. 

I hope you like them.

Link >> Click here

Kate x 

Here is an example of one of the pictures I have entered...



Over the hill in your 40s?

An anonymous person has contacted me via my blog and told me that I am over the hill and to face it that I am past it, oh and I should shave my little tuft off.

Now, most of the men I have met know that there is a little age difference between the age I advertise as and the age I am.  I have volunteered this information when the topic of age has come up and without bragging (ok I am a bit) it is usually because they think I am younger than the age I have stated on my profile.  I have changed it not because I have a problem with my age or because I thought I would get more work, but because I was concerned that family or friends might identify me, as there are not many red heads working in the area I live in.  Anything that deviates from the truth is worthwhile in my eyes.

If you would like to know my real age, just get in touch, where I can contact you in private and I will gladly tell you.  If this changes your mind on me or wanting to meet me, then so be it.  I'm not worried about that, it is immaterial in comparison to the heart ache being discovered would cause.

 

Taken 20th Sept 2012 - Not looking too haggard I hope?



Now, back on topic.  Do you think that ladies in their 40s are past it?  That they should hang their stockings up and admit defeat?  Or do they also have something to offer?  Can they be sexy, sensual and cause a stir in the trouser department?

Last week it was my birthday and I celebrated the whole week, with clients, friends and family.  I feel younger in my heart, than I did 20 years ago.  I also got 3 Field Reports written and have another one on the way from a booking I took just yesterday.  Yes I know about it, as he messaged me after to thank me and tell me he would be returning and writing one.  Of course I am delighted, as all through my life I have seeked acceptance and confirmation that I'm making people happy, because I am a people pleaser by nature and it makes me happy.

I personally don't really understand the mentality of men who feel that age is a negative.  Women in their 50s and 60s can be glamorous.  It's more about looking after yourself and having the confidence to exude sexual energy.



So... my anonymous commentor, who doesn't have the balls to bitch at me to the face.  What is it about you, that can not accept a woman who is maybe older and protecting her family?  Why do you have to write snide messages implying that I am not proud of the age I am and that I am over the hill?  I have my reasons and have stated them loud and clear on numerous occassions.  If what you say is true, why do people keep booking me and keep reviewing me?  It's not like I'm the cheapest Escort in town.

Perhaps you need to look at yourself first?

Time on my hands

Who's idea was it to take the slow ferry out to Belfast???? If you find them, shoot them for me!!! Oh hang on it was my idea, scrap that thought.  I'm not sure if it was a good idea or a bad one really.  I mean God what a waste of a day, but at the same time, it has been interesting to say the least.

So here I am, ever so slightly bored out of my mind and not able to gain access to the majority of things I enjoy using on the internet (I'm not sure what that says about me), but seriously, I can't even play bejewelled!!!! and I decide to take a wander outside and get some fresh air and while I'm out there I get chatting to this rather lovely Irish chap with two dogs and in the space of three hours I fall in lush, fall in love and fall out of love again.  Does that make me shallow? 

He had the most amazing blue eyes, he was slender and he was interesting, but most of all he loved those dogs.  How could I not fall for a man with such a heart?  He was confident and he was good company and he bought me a rather large glass of red, which I am seriously hoping is out of my system by the time I depart from this ferry.  We both chatted and drank, acting like school children who had never had a drink before.  It was almost as if we were both drunk after just a few sips, but it was mostly flirtatious and do you believe in fate? It transpires that we were both born on September 13th!  What are the odds of that?

Of course we didn't believe each other and this is the point where I was thankful I had been honest about my age, as we had to show each others passports to believe each other and low and behold it was true.  I had not just met a fellow virgo, but one born on the same day, a tad few years after myself (he is 31).

Now... After having a drink that had gone straight to his head and having 2 hungry dogs, he went to get some food and gave one plate to the dogs and ate the other for himself.  He had offered to feed me too, but I refused due to my diet.  I may well be breaking that very soon, as I had given one of my sandwiches to the dogs and I'm still hungry.  This is where I fall out of love.  Not because I am hungry, but being fed and watered he lies down in the sunshine and closes his eyes and proceeds to fall asleep.  Endearing as it was that he felt that comfortable in my company, I didn't much feel like watching him sleep and my delicate female frame did not relish falling asleep on the hard floor with my back against hard metal railings.

I decided to creep up without disturbing and pop back inside in the warmth and comfort of the soft chairs.  The question is... do I give him my number?  Or do I remember who I am and leave it as a moment in time that was pleasurable, but short lived?

I also have to ask  myself if the strong compulsion that I felt to kiss him was natural or a product of who I am?  Am I not capable of enjoying a man's company without wanting to devour him?  Or is this a unique situation of me wanting someone for myself?  Is it a matter of wanting what I can't have or is it more a matter of knowing I could have it if I wanted to take it?  Am I not taking the next step, because I don't want to be prooved right or am I scared of rejection?

So what am I going to do about it?  Well, I have written my name and phone number on a piece of paper and I may give it to him.  I doubt he would use it though, as he is only he for a short time and then he will be back to Manchester, which isn't exactly up the road from where I live.  He is also thinking of living in the Middle East, so nothing could come of it.  I wonder if that is a positive or a negative though.  I mean I can hardly claim to be relationship phobic with someone who is not in a position to offer a relationship.  Could I not just enjoy the moment?

To be continued...

My first fake orgasm!!!!

Oh dear!

It's Saturday morning and I had the phone on vibrate.  The first 2 times I heard it go off I knew it was rediculously early and ignored it, but the 3rd time I imagined it was later and a more reasonable hour and some how I found my hand reaching out for it and heard my voice saying hello.  On the other end of the phone was a Scottish chap.  He told me he was in the area and feeling horny and could he come over.

Unfortunately I was not in Cheltenham and explained I was near an hour up the road from where he was, but he was determined and said he would come over here.  I was still with my sleepy head so agreed.  He then asked for discount, seeing as he was coming over to me and again with my sleepy head on I found myself agreeing to £70.  Mind you, he was saving me £10 in fuel, which is what it would have cost me to drive to Cheltenham.

I then spent the rest of the time tidying up my room and putting clothes away.  I don't spend a lot of time at home these days, so it does tend to get treated like a dumping ground and of course an unsupervised teenager isn't going to pay  much attention to the finer details of tidying up after themselves.  A quick shower, light application of make up and rummaging out an old corset, bra and knickers and I was as ready as I was ever going to be.

He arrived here much quicker than I had anticipated, after just half an hour, so either he drove like the clappers or he wasn't as far away as I had thought.  I'm afraid it all went wrong the moment he walked through the door.  First words uttered...  "I bet I'm younger than you thought I would be?" I'm thinking, no not really, you told me you were millitary and didn't sound old on the phone, so no huge surprise.  The thing is, it was the way he said it.  Like I should be dripping wet because he was young and 'lucky me'.  Was he attractive?  He wasn't unattractive, but no, he wasn't someone I would notice in a crowded bar.

He told me he only had £69 at this point, but I wasn't going to quibble and then said he would pay at the end.  I had to ask him to pay at the start.  He then stripped and you could just see he was expecting me to adore him.  Yes he had a decent figure.  Then he had the audacity to ask me if I had any STI's!!!! Wtf! Who does he think he is? What a mood breaker too!  Despite this I got down on to him and he got his hands behind my head and started to shove me down harder.  I asked him to stop, which he did for a while and then he did it again.  For the first time in my life I had to tell someone that they would have to leave if they continued to behave that way.

He then asked me to masturbate, which I did while still playing with him.  He wanted me to cum and in the absense of a vibrator I got my clit vibrater with a finger adapter on it and he started to push it in me while I fingered my clit.  He then started to stab it into me so it hurt and again I had to ask him to stop.  He was determined to make me cum and it really wasn't working and so for the first time in nearly 3 years of Escorting I had to fake it.

Satisfied that he had made me cum I robed him and got on top.  He asked me if I normally came and I wasn't going to lie so I said yet.  I'm sure his ego wanted to hear differently, as he did think he was something special.  He then moved on to doggie and came within an instant and decided it was time to leave (thank God). 

As he got dressed I could see him hovering over the money he had given me.  You know that feeling when you can sense someone is not happy to have spent the money they had invested.  I had to coax him past it, as I really felt given half the chance he would take it back and then just to prove he was a total tosser, when he left the house he decided to jump on the parting wall between my house and the neighbours and onto the neighbours pathway to cut short his walk back to his car.  Talk about being indiscreet!  And all of this before 8am!

I'll not say which barracks he came from, but the last time I got a call from there it was a wind up call and this time may not have been a wind up, but gosh what a tosser.  I'm considering barring any services to the place and may well add it to my profile.

I'm just glad I've got an appointment at the hairdressers later today, so I can pamper myself and put the whole sorry experience behind me.  Thank God most young guys don't have the same attitude as this one.  Would I see him again?  Not on your life.  He's barred!