What no one wants to here

It seems that everyone who is anti prostitution has a blinkered view of both the ladies providing the service and the men who are paying for it.  I have to admit that before I started working as an Escort, I too believed in the stereo types given and thought the women were all sluts, likely drug dependent and alcoholics and the men all wore rain macs and were mysoginystic arse holes with no respect for the opposite sex.  Of course I was wrong to believe the hype and I only wish I had been more open minded years ago and then I would never have got into debt.

I'd like to introduce you to some of my clients.  There will be no names, but a bit of back ground and I hope if you have any empathy or compassion in your heart, you will see why it is unfair and wrong to generalise about people or contemplate criminalizing clients who book Escorts.

I met this man in Southern Ireland.  I won't say which part, as it is a small place and I don't want him to suffer for my disclosure.  He is in his early 40's.  A very slim man with fair, slightly wavy hair, beautiful blue eyes and around the same height as myself.  He was incredibly nervous.  He explained to me that he was a virgin and was finding it very hard to make eye contact with me. 

He was so nervous.  On this occassion I was wearing a corset, stockings, heels etc and I so wish I wasn't, because I realised instantly he would have been more at ease if I had been in a dress or more casually dressed.  To try to relax his nerves I moved forward and hugged him and while we were hugging he told me that he had never even kissed a woman before.  As I took in the reality of what h was telling me I couldn't help but shed a tear.  I looked him in the eyes, still crying and told him how sorry I was that he had never felt such a basic thing that most of us take for granted.  His eyes were so sad and so lonely.  I'm crying now just recounting it.

In response I gently kissed him on the lips.  At first he didn't respond, he didn't know how to, but gradually he grew in confidence and we began to kiss, gentle, caring, loving kisses.  What I found in this man was a natural lover.  He was responsive and responded.  He was gentle, caring and I admit that I lost track of time, because I didn't want him to walk away feeling that his first experience was all about the money he had paid.

We are still in touch some months later and I hope to see him again when I am next in his area.  He still hasn't met any other women or started to date, but I'm hoping that as his confidence grows, he will be able to not just approach a women, but recognise when she is interested in him.  He had no confidence at all, which is such a shame, as I really enjoyed his company and think he has a lot to offer the right woman.

Should this man be made a criminal for the experience we had?

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Another example...

I met this person in England through a website that I advertise on.  He first contacted me asking me if I could go to him, as he is disabled and can not travel.  I contacted him back to tell him, that I would be happy to do that, but could he first explain to me what his disability is, so I could do some reseach and decide if I am the right person for him.

He said he had a genetic illness that meant that he had a normal childhood, but once he hit adolescents his body started to waste away.  It also affected his ability to talk, but his mind was bright and active and he was still the same person inside.  So what we have here is a young man in his early 30's, who at the age of 15, when all his friends were looking to their future, dating and sport etc, was dealing with the fact that he would be lucky to make it to 30, he would be lucky to ever have a girlfriend or bonding relationship and would one day not even be able to satisfy himself, let alone a woman.

I agreed to go and see him, as I felt that he deserved a bit of respite from his solitary world.  He deserved to feel desired, in the way that many take for granted and I liked his personality.  Despite the crap going on in his life, he still had a cracking sense of humour and I wanted to know him.

When I get to the care home I'm shown in by his carer.  I wasn't sure she if she knew why I was there, so we chatted on the way, but it became evident that she did.  In all honesty most of the time we spent together was about company.  We chatted as I sat on the edge of the bed.  I stroked him while we chatted, as I believe human contact is important.  His room was full of pictures of naked ladies, he had evidence of his previous life all around him, like a visual diary.  This was a young man with a healthy sexual libido, who's hands could barely type or push buttons, let alone anything sexual.

Do you believe he should be criminilized for seeking my services?  Do I feel violated for spending time with this man who has gone through so much and yet every day wakes up worse off than the next.  A young man in a body that refuses to work, with memories of being fully able, being around girls and having a full life.  Of course I don't.  I only wish that there was more I could do, that what I do was more acceptable to society and instead of frowned upon, rejoiced for having empathy, compassion and the ability to express my love for my fellow human beings, the way I do.

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A client who has become a dear friend of mine has mild aspergers.  He had a beautiful relatonship where he lost his virginity as a young man in his teens.  Alas they parted when she went to Uni and where she moved on to new relationships and eventually got married, this is were his sexual life ended.  He is now in his 50's and has never experienced that love or a relationship again since.

Due to being aspergers he is a very sexual being.  He has relied heavily on porn as a stimulus and thus has become dependent on this stimul in order to orgasm.  Finally after 30 years of being celebate he turned to Escorts to try and salvage what he could of his physical desires, but he is hampered with a love that never really left in his heart and a knew problem of needing external stimulus to get the desired affect.  He is also a rather large man, so there are restrictions with visual eye contact in certain positions etc.

Before I met him he had tried and failed to get what he needed.  His mind simply refused to allow what the body craved.  I can't profess to have cured his problem and I think it will take a lot of time if possible at all when the mind is fixated, but what I give him is hope.  I haven't given up on him as others have.  I'm willing to look at alternatives and I accept him for who he is.

Should this man be criminilized for reaching out and asking for someone to give a damn?  For someone to be open minded and willing to explore with him, to make him complete and fulfilled?  Should he have to live with that emptiness?  I don't think so and I chose to say yes.  No one made me.

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Another time in Ireland I was booked by someone I had not met before.  In all honesty the booking was pretty straight foward in the main.  We had enjoyed each others company and were lay in each others arms with that after glow you get and he thanked me.  Of course I said he was welcome, as I had enjoyed myself too, but then he went on to tell me what a horrible time he had been having and how utterly depressed he had felt before meeting me.

It transpires that earlier that week he had attended the funeral of his Sister, who he was very close to.  It had affected him very badly and he was in a bit of a black hole.  He was thanking me not so much for the intimacy, but for my company, for listening and for giving a damn.

We had talked about our experiences with death and cancer and we just hugged.  Nothing out of the ordinary, just how I would be with anyone I felt needed emotional support.

A few weeks later I got a call of someone who said he was a friend of this person and he told me that I had not made just one person happy that day, but 3.  Apparently they had been going through the death and pain of losing a loved one together.  They had been friends since childhood.  He said that after seeing me he had a smile on his face and cracked his first joke in months, the mood had lifted and they were able to take the first step of moving forward.

Please tell me this man should not be criminilized?  This man who had watched his Sister die of a crippling disease they call cancer.  This man who couldn't see anything but dispair, who just wanted a moment of distraction, to be close to someone, who didn't know him well enough to feel sorry for him and originally took him at face value, who just wanted to feel normal for a second?

No one forced me to see him.  I arranged the booking with him myself and he sounded decent on the phone, so I said yes.  I enjoyed my time with him and gained such personal satisfaction in knowing I had made him happy.  You can't even begin to describe how that feels, other than job satisfaction.

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to be cont,

Old Year Out and New Year In!

2012

What a year 2012 turned out to be!  It's hard to know where to start.

A few lows I suppose, with one being losing the use of my beautiful apartment in Worcester and with it many of the regulars that I enjoyed the company of so much.  The apartment was so convenient for people travelling on the motorway and I miss it and the clients still very much.  It had to be done though, as unfortunately not many people truely understand or appreciate exactly how Escorts contribute to society, which in reality is far more than fulfilling a need.

With that aside, the positives have been tremendous.  Now settled in Cheltenham, with a small group of followers from my Worcester base (you know who you are and thank you for staying with me).  It's a great location that allows me to fully enjoy the locality on foot, which I love and as a place has a lot to offer.  I haven't quite built up the same regular base here, but that is largely due to my increase in touring Ireland and Northern Ireland.  I appreciate that some want to be able to see their favourite more than 3 or 4 times a year and at the moment that is not something I can offer.

Touring!

This has been a huge year for me with regards to touring.  There is very little left of Ireland or Northern Ireland that I have not covered yet and I have even managed to squeeze in the odd tour to London and Yorkshire.  The experience in itself has been amazing.  I love going to new place and as I am also a keen photographer, I have very much enjoyed taking pictures of some of the beautiful landscapes and skies I have encountered.

Recovery

With the loss of my apartment at the start of the year I did have alot of expenses to cover and lost all of the savings that I had built up to pay off some of my debts with.  In all honesty I have not quite built up to where I was this time last year, but I'm not too far off and in general it is looking good.  I may not have managed to pay off any of my debts, as I had hoped to in 2012, but I was able to deal with any problems that arose and have managed to maintain things without any stress.  Things could have been an awful lot worse, so for me it is still a result and lots of lessons learnt along the way.

Weight Loss

Total weight loss for 2012 was one stone and one pound.  Yes it was more than that at one point, but with touring and Christmas some of the weight went back on.  Having said that I'm still able to get into most size 14 clothes, but my boobs do need a size 16 top, as they won't always fit in a size 14.  Funnily enough, I'm having a lot of compliments on my boobs since I put the weight back on, so it seems that is where the weight has gone lol.  I guess it could have been worse?

2013

We all have to have a New Year's resolution.  Mine is going to be to stop procrastinating.  This year I'm going to actually do the things I have been talking about, instead of just talking.  I'm going to spend less time using my laptop for the sake of using it, or as a diversion tactic.  I'm going to be more focussed and I'm going to continue to lose weight.

Changes

Some little changes planned for this year.  I've had my hair re-styled.  It's still long, still red, but now the parting goes to the side and it's a bit more flicky.  I took this picture of Keira Knightly with me when I went to get it cut.

 

 

I'm also looking at losing another stone this year.  That is a stone from where I am today, not from where I left off.  I'm trying to make it doable and seeing as I did manage that last year, then there is no reason why I can't manage it again this year.  Yes if I can lose more I will, as the final target is to fit into size 12/14, instead of 14/16, but if that is in 2013 or 2014, I really don't mind.  As long as I achieve my goal and of course, as long as I look better and it improves the way I look and does not detract from it.

 

Plans

 

I do enjoy the touring and have already made plans to start again in February.  However, I am seriously considering if I would be better of locating myself across the water for a couple of years in an attempt to achieve my financial goal.  In the mean time here are my plans for Feb & March.

 

Feb

 

4th to 6th - Galway

7th to 9th - Dublin - D1

10th to 12th - Belfast - BT1

13th to 15th - TBA

 

March

 

4th to 6th - London Euston

 

11th to 13th - Tipperary

14th to 16th - Limerick

17th to 19th - Kilarney

20th to 24th - Cork

25th to 27th - Waterford

 

I will of course keep you informed of any location changes, but it is not likely to be before the Spring, as you can see I will be pretty busy up until the end of March anyway.

 

That's all I can think of at the moment.  I wish everyone a great 2013 and hope it is one full of love, lust and fun!  Let's also hope that we pull through our own personal recessions and have a prosperous 2013!

 

In the mean time you can find me in Cheltenham for the whole of January.  Give me a call to book on 07564749474.  Check my website for updates at www.curvaceouskate.com





Haggling in Ireland & UK

Why do clients feel it is ok to haggle?  Yesterday I had a chap text me and ask if I would reduce my rate to 80e for 30 minutes.  I said no.  I couldn’t see the point in being less direct, as he might think it was ok.  He then said ok, 100e and I said, yes that is fine.  However for this he now wanted 45 minutes, but he would bring coffee and pastries (it was morning).  Again I said no.  A little later he said ok to 100e, but if he had not cum at the 30 minutes stage, would I let him continue?

At this point I told him that his custom was not welcome and that I did not appreciate the implication behind the question.  I told him that he should have checked my reviews and trusted me to provide a good service for the money I am asking for.  In reply he said that many women had let him down, that he had left feeling unfulfilled and he couldn’t afford to spend money on a bad experience.  This is fair enough, but we also get plenty of time wasters and men that stop us from working, just because they wanted a bit of titillation on the phone.  We both have to trust each other for this to work.

He apologised and asked if he could come to see me at the rate I had agreed to, 100e for 30 minutes and as it was quiet I said yes and gave him the benefit of the doubt.  20 minutes later he was with me and a further 25 minutes later he was lay on my bed flushed and spent. We had a cuddle and he left just short of his 30 minutes asking me if he could see me again before I left Galway.

Isn’t it a shame that he nearly didn’t get to see me, because of all the haggling?  Isn’t it a shame that he made me feel like I was going to try and mug him of his money and didn’t care if he enjoyed himself or not, when he had never even met me before?  Isn’t it a shame that he didn’t have faith in the reviews, even though I have 50+ from all different sources that all show my worth and care for what I do?

I had a look around the adverts this morning, to see who else is working in the area and was quite surprised at just how many Escorts were working at 80e for 30 minutes.  There are 42 ladies touring here at the moment and less than a handful are charging 100e, in comparison to the majority being 80e or even less.  I can understand why someone might look at my profile and think it is too much to spend when they can see someone else for less, but if this man is typical and now holds a fear of not getting what he wants to the point of almost insulting someone he has never met, well… maybe that is your answer?  He has met the ladies offering the lower rates and not been satisfied.

What am I trying to say?  Yes you do have to live within your means, but for the sake of 20e, is it worth not seeing the lady you want to see?  Is it not better to read her profile, look at her reviews and talk to her on the phone and if she sounds and seems to be what you are looking for then invest that little extra? 

I can’t help but wonder in this case, with a man who originally wanted to pay me 80e, how all of a sudden he has enough money to see me twice in one week?  Is it really a matter of can’t afford, or just doesn’t want to pay more than he would for one of the girls that didn’t do it for him?

So… this morning after a fairly quiet day yesterday I am wondering should I be reducing my rates in line with the 80e girls or stand my ground, because I know that the service I provide is excellent?  I won’t see more than 4 or 5 clients in a day, because I do find orgasms and gushing physically draining and I just couldn’t do it and that is what happens, because I completely release myself to the moment.  So the answer is no, because for me to do that I would have to give up Escorting, because I would not earn enough to do it.  I would just stop coming to Ireland if that was the case.

You Irish seem to love your Irish and English girls.  Just think about the consequences of what you are asking when you haggle.  We don’t come from a 3^rd world Country.  Things are expensive back in England and we have bills to pay and lots of costs in touring, so please, please don’t haggle.  Choose wisely, do your research and get the experience you want with the lady that you can trust not to let you down.  Show a little respect and you will get it back two fold and all for just 20e extra!

Prostate Massage

This week I experienced another first.  I had invited in a new client and we were generally getting to know each others bodies and having some fun when I noticed he was particularly enjoying having his balls played with, then this developed as my hand went a little lower I realised he was encouraging me to run around his anal area.  I don't generally do anal play (either way), it's not something I actively enjoy, but I could see how turned on he was by it and didn't really want to spoil it for him.  I decided to ask him outright if he was sensitive down there and his face lit up and he said he enjoyed it very much.

After a little debate with myself I told him I had some gloves and would he like me to get one so I could give him a little more attention, but I did also tell him that I was relatively inexperienced, so he would have to guide me.  I got a glove, put it on and added a little lube to the end and very gently started to massage the outer ring of his anal area.  I could see he was enjoying the experience very much.  He then encouraged me to go a little deeper and a little deeper until my full finger was inserted and gently rubbing away.

Not being experienced I thought about the positioning of my g-spot and what works for me and aimed for around that area.  This is centrally located around the middle of where my now brazillion is located and happily it seemed to hit the spot perfectly.  I could feel him wriggling under my touch and so I decided to up the anti and took him in my mouth, while maintaining a constant rubbing action with my finger.  The results were amazing when finally he told me he was going to come and being new to me I quickly swapped my mouth for my hand and brought him to completion.  Obviously I know that he came due to the sticky mess he made, but at the same time he came outwardly I felt a pressure and release around his prostrate and for the first time in my life felt a man cum via his prostrate.  It was such an exhiliating experience and I was so pleased with myself and his reaction, it was totally amazing.

Being curious to exactly what had happened I looked it up on the internet and this is the information that I found...

The G-Spot or Sacred Spot of a man is his prostate gland. Tantric philosophy considers the G-Spot a man's emotional sex center. Massaging the man's prostate releases tremendous amounts of emotional and physical stress. Coupled with stimulation of his penis or "lingam", massaging his prostate can be extremely pleasurable and healing to the man. Since the most direct way to massage the man's Sacred Spot is through his anus, it takes time to adjust to being penetrated in this way. It is not for every man. The benefits are many and the pleasure can be very intense. For tantric partners, lovers or those otherwise genuinely comfortable with one another, massaging the sacred spot can be a powerful experience. Not only in terms of ecstatic pleasure for the "receiver", but in the sexual empowerment it bestows on the "giver".

The walnut sized prostate gland is located directly underneath the bladder, not far from the internal root of the penis (see diagram). As can be seen, the gland is in close proximity to the rectal wall, allowing for easy access through the anus.

Why is prostate massage pleasurable? There are number of reasons:

Ejaculation reflex sensation

No matter which method is used it is not possible to touch the prostate directly. The nearest indirect access is through the rectal wall, which means that there is still a membrane in the way. This is somewhat akin to the inhibiting sensitivity a glove. Despite this restriction the lobes of the prostrate are highly sensitive to pressure. An array of sensations may be produced by pressing, rubbing or by means of stroking the gland through the rectal wall. The most profound of these feelings is similar to that sublime sensation which is normally felt during ejaculation, as the prostate begins pumping semen.
 

 Would I do it again?  Yes and very happy to.  I've never seen such a completely overwhelming and totally absorbing reaction before, which seemed close to the times that I have a deep orgasm.  The type of orgasm that touches every fibre of your body and brings the emotions to the surface.  If I can achieve that for you, then I am more than happy to do it.  So it seems that yet another one of my bounderies has been lifted and I'm so pleased that I took the step to do this for the client, as he was a lovely chap and I really enjoyed his company.  A real cup half full type.

I warn you that I am very new to this though, so please do give guidance and have patience if you like it done in a particular way.  I also need to make sure I have some gloves with me, so let me know on booking if this is a service you would be interested in.

Another string to my bow!

Kate x

Massage, Essential Oils & Aromatherapy

Massage is something that I offered with much trepidation when I first started Escorting, but as time has gone by I have not only grown in confidence, but come to realise just how it can totally transform the experience, relaxing both the body and mind.

While I was touring Dublin not so long ago, I was lucky enough to be booked by a lovely gentleman who offered to give me an hour long massage.  He started by producing some oil that he had personally put together and requested a bowl of hot water to put the bottle of oil into.  Then he lay me on my tummy and proceeded to gently massage my whole body from top to bottom.  Admittedly this was a little spicier than your regular massage, as he combined it with a little tantric massage, which was very sensual.  This finally ended with a sarong being put over me and slowly, very gently past along my body, which was so sensitive at this point, I could feel every inch, as it moved across my body.

I knew then that this was something I needed to offer my clients and finally 2 months later, I have put my thoughts into action.  Here is what I propose...

Stimulating Aromatheric Bath

 

The booking will start with a relaxing bath with the scent of essential oils.  The oils will be selected dependent on your needs.  I will be offering baths and massages to combat several of the stresses that both your mind and body may be under with the rigours of a busy and full life.

 

The bathroom will be candle lit with the lights off, to give you a truely relaxing atmosphere and you will be submerged for approx 10 minutes.  During this time you can take the bath by yourself and use it to empty your mind of the days stresses and strains or I can join you in the bath, sitting behind you and giving you a shoulder and head massage.

 

 

After the bath I will help dry you off with a large egyptian cotton towel and you will come through to the bedroom where there will be another towel lay out on the bed for you to lie on.

 

You can select what kind of treatment you would like from:

 

Stimulating poor circulation

Loneliness

Mental fatigue

Low self-Esteem

Poor Memory

Exhaustion & Fatigue

Stress & Anxiety

 

The oils used will be specifically selected for you and your needs, starting from the bath onward.

 

Massage

 

You can choose from a 10 minute massage as a 'quick fix' to your immediate needs or a 40 minute massage, which will be more in depth and give you a longer lasting feeling of well being.  The first option will concentrate on your back, buttox and legs, while the longer massage will work both the back and the front.  The massage is meant to relax and stimulate.  It is not a sports massage for deep tissue manipulation, but much more gentle and sensual.

 

 

What makes this massage unique?

 

That would be me!  I will be taking a much more 'hands on' approach and the option of oral gratification is also on offer.  This includes reverse oral on myself if you enjoy giving as much as recieving.  A truely happy ending that should leave you feeling stimulated from top to toe and ready to face the world with renewed vigour.

 

When will this new service be available?

 

I will be offering this service as from November.  Once I have assessed my expenses and done a little training to make sure that I am offering the best service possible, I will add this information to the blog, so keep an eye out.  Please note the 'happy ending' is optional.  If you would just like the bath and massage and to be with a woman who is happy with her body and sensuality, that is absolutely fine.

 

Your opinions and ideas with this at it's infancy are very welcome and appreciated.  Please do leave comments, as they could be vital to the service offered at this point, before I start in November.

 

Kate x



Halloween!!!

Please vote for me!!!  I have entered the Adultwork Halloween picture competition and literally just submitted 26 pictures.  All free to see, but I would love you to vote for me. 

I hope you like them.

Link >> Click here

Kate x 

Here is an example of one of the pictures I have entered...



Over the hill in your 40s?

An anonymous person has contacted me via my blog and told me that I am over the hill and to face it that I am past it, oh and I should shave my little tuft off.

Now, most of the men I have met know that there is a little age difference between the age I advertise as and the age I am.  I have volunteered this information when the topic of age has come up and without bragging (ok I am a bit) it is usually because they think I am younger than the age I have stated on my profile.  I have changed it not because I have a problem with my age or because I thought I would get more work, but because I was concerned that family or friends might identify me, as there are not many red heads working in the area I live in.  Anything that deviates from the truth is worthwhile in my eyes.

If you would like to know my real age, just get in touch, where I can contact you in private and I will gladly tell you.  If this changes your mind on me or wanting to meet me, then so be it.  I'm not worried about that, it is immaterial in comparison to the heart ache being discovered would cause.

 

Taken 20th Sept 2012 - Not looking too haggard I hope?



Now, back on topic.  Do you think that ladies in their 40s are past it?  That they should hang their stockings up and admit defeat?  Or do they also have something to offer?  Can they be sexy, sensual and cause a stir in the trouser department?

Last week it was my birthday and I celebrated the whole week, with clients, friends and family.  I feel younger in my heart, than I did 20 years ago.  I also got 3 Field Reports written and have another one on the way from a booking I took just yesterday.  Yes I know about it, as he messaged me after to thank me and tell me he would be returning and writing one.  Of course I am delighted, as all through my life I have seeked acceptance and confirmation that I'm making people happy, because I am a people pleaser by nature and it makes me happy.

I personally don't really understand the mentality of men who feel that age is a negative.  Women in their 50s and 60s can be glamorous.  It's more about looking after yourself and having the confidence to exude sexual energy.



So... my anonymous commentor, who doesn't have the balls to bitch at me to the face.  What is it about you, that can not accept a woman who is maybe older and protecting her family?  Why do you have to write snide messages implying that I am not proud of the age I am and that I am over the hill?  I have my reasons and have stated them loud and clear on numerous occassions.  If what you say is true, why do people keep booking me and keep reviewing me?  It's not like I'm the cheapest Escort in town.

Perhaps you need to look at yourself first?