Making contact with an Escort

I'm just in to my second year of Escorting now and I finally feel qualified to have an opinion on how things work, how I should be treated and what makes a good client.  With this in mind I have decided to write down a few things that will hopefully help both of us at the first stages of meeting.  For some of you it will just be confirmation that you are doing everything the right way and with others it might just make you realise why you possibly are not getting very far with your bookings. Some escorts (including myself) won't reply to messages if they feel they are rude, disrespectful or too mechanical.  We are after all human and the emotional variety at that.  We don't stop being emotional just because of the job we are doing.

Making contact:

For me there are two preferences for making contact.  That would be either by email (either using the message service on the profile or direct to my email box if you have access to it).  Using email you can easily show a little of your personality, tell me what you are looking for, what you would like or even tell me why you are interested in meeting me.  You might just want to see what I look like, which is great, as then when you have seen my picture, I will at least know that you are not going to be disappointed when you meet me and still very much keen.  Once this has been established then the next step is to talk on the phone or book on Adultwork if you use this method.

Phoning is the best method for making everything clear.  Unfortunately and I know I'm not alone with this, but as a part-time escort who lives with family, I am not always able to answer the phone.  I also have another job (again I am not alone in this) which prohibits how often I can answer the phone.  However, when I am able to it makes booking so much easier and straight forward.  Don't be put off by unanswered calls.  It is likely the Escort is just not able to answer at that time.  However, don't also persist in calling several times in the same hour.  If she is working with another client and worth her salt, she will not answer the call until after the booking.  If she is with family or driving she can not answer it.  Always give a few hours before trying again, or text to say you tried to make contact and will call again, or give the lady permission to return the call.  I personally will never reply to a call unless I have literally just missed it and assume they are free to answer the call.  Discretion is very important on both sides.

What kind of things would you say?

It's a good idea to establish a few things.  Where would you like the meeting to take place?  Do you have any specific requests?  How long for and confirm the rate, so that you both know what is expected.  If you have any unusual problems it might also be worth mentioning.  I personally don't offer bookings to gents with some disabilities due to the fact that I have no experience and work upstairs, where other ladies may have a background and accomodation that does allow for this.  Some ladies feel more comfortable with their own race, while others purely require a client to be clean and respectful.  It's all about getting the chemistry right really and that is what makes a booking spectacular and not just routine.

Texting!  Texting is ok if with an Escort that you have met before.  Once you have met there tends to be a more relaxed approach, a mutual respect and trust.  With this there is less likely to be a misunderstanding and less need to make sure of the content and expectation and if there is confusion, then you are more likely to ring up and clarify things.  If contacting for the first time via text, it tells you very little about the other persons personality and can easily lead to confusion.  I recently had a text with 'do you do a' written down.  Now at the time and being in the middle of doing something else, I didn't see it as a complete question, but wondered why they had stopped mid sentence.  They then sent another message saying that it was all fine, so I assumed we had the booking set up, as we had already discussed time, date and location.  However my not answering the question told him that I was not happy and he assumed I did not want to do the booking.  I was rather disappointed when the time came and he did not call to confirm the booking, whereas he was surprised when I had expected it to go ahead.

This muddle (although I do take some responsibility) should not really have happened.  My profile tells you of all my do's, don't's and at discretions.  Please, please always read the full profile before contacting when you can and if you don't have time then do ring, as it is much quicker and more efficient in conveying information.  Texting is time consuming and can not be done while driving, or if working etc, so assuming that the lady is able to respond to several texts really isn't fair.  She does have a life outside of escorting.  Please try your best to be prepared before booking, so that the booking time can be done efficiently and it also shows the lady that you have picked her with some thought and not just picked her out with your finger and eyes closed.  This job is so much easier when the gent actually fancies the lady and wants to be with her.  If you are not turned on, it is because you haven't spent time choosing your lady.

Confirmation:

Once the meeting has been made and you have either booked it on AW or written it into your diary, it is really important that you confirm the booking on the day of the meet at least a couple of hours before the meeting.  Even if you know the details or if they are coming to you.  This confirmation is vital to us Escorts to tell us that you are still coming or that we are about to travel out to a booking that is going to happen.  If you don't confirm, don't be surprised if your booking time has been taken up by someone else, or that they don't turn up to your place.  Even if you are a regular you must confirm.

If you need to cancel or something happens at the last minute:

This is a huge bone of contention.  Surely it is better to let the lady know that you can no longer make the booking than to say nothing and go on her timewaster list?  We know that things happen, we know you might be a little scared or feel at the last minute you can't go through with it due to your family, financial reasons etc and we understand this.  What we don't understand is why you can't just let us know.  Next time this happens, even if it is just a text, please do let us know.  All it has to be is, "Sorry, but I can't make it".  We may be disappointed, but we will respect you for having told us and you will then be open to returning at some other point, should you want to.

Preparing for your meeting:

Remembering you are going to be intimate with someone, it is nice if you can dress nicely (if not coming straight from work) be clean and smell nice.  Not too much aftershave if you wear it, but enough to smell nice if up close and personal.  If you are not able to do this, then you really must be prepared to have a quick shower before starting the meeting.  It might eat into your time, but literally takes seconds and make sure you use the soap and don't just dunk under the water, taking particular care and attention to under arms and genitals.  Even if you did shower that morning and it is now lunch time, it would do no harm to have a quick clean to these areas. You will find the lady is clean for you and it is only fair to be the same.

Once this is done and if not already happened, then it is important to not hold on to the money.  Let's face it, once you start kissing, the last thing you want to do is stop and start doing business.  Get it out the way and then you can both relax.  You might think it a bit rude being asked, but there are so many chancers out there, we just can't afford not to.  I have a friend who after the first 15 minutes offered her a cheque that then bounced.  No lady takes cheque, don't even go there.  Some may take credit card, but that would have to be done several days before the meeting, to ensure the money is recieved, but otherwise cash is the best method and cash up front!  So... offer before being asked is always best.

Requests:

Don't be shy to ask for requests.  No two men are the same.  One might like a lady dressed in corset and fishnets, while another might prefer a simple dress and little make up.  We want to make your time special and any indicator of how to do this is welcome.  If you don't want full penetrative sex then you don't have to have it, not all men do, some enjoy the company, a little foreplay and that is it.  I was surprised when I first started escorting at how many men didn't want 'full sex'.  I had imagined there would be a lot of 'wham bham, thank you mam' but how very wrong I was!  Most men are very caring, tender, interesting and funny.  We spend our time chatting as well as having some fun and oral is very popular.  If that is all you want, then don't feel bad about it, it's fine by us, if you just want to meet for lunch or to go to an event and have company, then that is good too.  It's not all about the sex, it's about you leaving feeling happy and having a big smile on your face.  This is one of the best things about my job.  I love making people happy and it is a very rewarding job.

Don't be too specific with your requests.  Asking for 4" heels in red with a bow on them is not going to be possible unless you have seen them in a picture of the escort and even then, she may not have them any more, so it might not be possible.  If the lady is going to be on tour when she gets to you, she may only have a few outfits with her, so be sure to ask well in advance, so she can pack the right things.

Shy:

If you are shy, then do not worry about meeting an Escort. The type of person that makes a good escort is naturally fairly confident and comfortable in her own skin.  She likely finds it easy to talk to people and will be there to make you happy, so she will take the lead until you feel ready to take it back.  It often makes me laugh how a gent will tell me he is shy and then 10 mins after meeting me he is acting like someone I have known all my life and gving me my second orgasm lol.  It is almost impossible to remain shy with someone when you are being intimate.  A hug and a kiss and all those feelings of trepidation just melt away leaving the passion and lust to take over.

I think that is enough for the moment.  I may edit this as I re-read it and remember other things, but I hope it does help to give some insight and of course, I can not talk on behalf of all Escorts, but it may well work for others too.