Sunday 15 December 2013

Sex Work Versus Child Betrothals/Marriage

I woke up this morning as always with things on my mind about my chosen career path in Sex Work and a particular person who has been texting me from the UK, offering me solace and telling me that I am a good person and I should grow up and get out of the sex trade, that is murdering 'our' children.  He has said a lot more besides and without provocation, but it seems in his mind he is doing a good thing.

Now this morning as I lay in my bed I couldn't help wonder, not knowing this mans age or circumstance.  If I had accepted his 'way out' and agreed to marry him.  Would I have ended up a slave to him?  Would he have expected me to be eternally grateful and then do his washing, cleaning, cooking and service him sexually when he wanted it?  Or was he trying to set me free, from what he felt was an evil job?

This in turn set me thinking about how historically young girls as soon as they hit puberty, in some cases as young as 12 or 13 have been married without their consent as part of a bargaining tool amongst families.  Often in order to keep the wider family in financial status or increase their social status.  Is this not a worse fate than a women who as an adult chooses to be a Sex Worker of her own free will?  Not forced, but empowering herself to hit goals and be financially secure in her own right.

At first I decided to google facts on arranged marriages within the UK and just how far back they could be traced, but I quickly got side tracked by the fact that this is not a thing of the past, but continues to happen world wide.  Almost instantly I was presented with a picture of a young girl sat by an old man.  Her fate to be his wife and live out the role of a wife to a man old enough to be her Grand Father.

http://www.foreignpolicy.com/articles/2011/05/19/the_young_and_the_betrothed#sthash.o03OGCsY.dpbs

Here we see a 40 year old man (who looks older) with an 11 year old girl, just before their wedding.  Tell me... what part does prostitution play in the fate of this child?  Is she being forced into Sex Work?  I'd say yes, but is it due to the Sex Trade?  No!  Who is responsible for making this child suffer in this way?  And I do mean suffer, because no 11 year old in this planet dreams of marrying a man she can not relate with, a man who could be her Father or Grand Father.  No girl of 11 is sexually aware or ready to be a wife and sexual partner to an adult.

From here I looked on and found a questions and answers board created for the Jewish faith.  This is what I found...

What has been the youngest age for marriage (not betrothal) amongst Jews for men and for women?

Answer:
One can marry as soon as they reach majority, which has been defined since well before the first century as age 12 for girls, 13 for boys.

In the early biblical period, they instead defined majority as having two pubic hairs (with some extra rules for people who couldn't grow any). The change in definition is rabbinic, and therefore doesn't apply to some biblical matters, such as conversion. However, it does apply for marriage. However, in those days a father had the right to marry off his minor daughter at any age, with the assumption that he knows what's in her best interest, and that's part of caring for her. She has the right to anull the marriage when reaching age 12. Today, the father would be violating a prohibition if he exercised this right, however, the marriage would be binding and a writ of divorce necessary.

Using this rule, I could have been married off at the age of 11.  This is when I got my first pubic hairs.  I was a month off my 18th birthday before I decided I was ready to have my first sexual encounter, let alone be married.  According to the Jewish faith, this would not matter.  My emotions, my mental and physical growth plays no part in this decision and if my Father had wanted me married at 11, then he would have been within his right to do so, due to those 2 pubic hairs.

I am now happily working as a Sex Worker, having had a regular childhood and having been introduced to sex in my own time, when I was ready and on my terms.  Who is getting the better deal here?  Who is being abused? Is the Sex Trade abusing Jewish girls that were or maybe still are being betrothed and married off before they are sexually aware and still children?  Is the Sex Trade abusing a women who chooses it of her own free will in her 30's and has no outside pressure to do so?

For anyone reading this who has not read my submission.  During the earlier months of this year I wrote a document that collated some facts, that together dispelled the myth that all Sex Workers are working against their will and the ones that are working are all damaged.  The facts are that in Ireland (an area I currently work), there are very few actual victims of trafficking and very few convictions, although still more convictions in Ireland than in Sweden, where people are too scared to come forward and evidence is very hard to come by.

The problem is that Ireland does not allow Agencies and many Escorts/Sex Workers arrive from outside of the country and prefer to use a body/Agency that can help them to set up work and secure somewhere to live and work from.  These ladies are earning less than Independent Escorts, as they are not working directly for themselves and there are over heads and a percentage of income owed to the Agency, but this works in the same way it would with an other Agency.  The fact that really  matters here is that the Sex Worker is working of their own free will and she should be protected by guidelines, that do not allow the exploitation of a third person, but regulates it.  As the law stands the arrangement is illegal, so although it still happens, she does not have any support and would be considered as trafficked or coerced.

There are also a percentage of women that work independently and they have no third party working on their behalf.  They get all their own work, decide how much to charge and what they are happy to do within their work.  This is the category that I come under.  I did not choose Sex Work out of desperation or because I had no other choice.  Yes I did have financial commitments that I needed to meet, but I did have other options, for one I had a house that I could have sold, but I chose to keep it and to become a Sex Worker, as this for me seemed like the logical choice, as something I knew I would be good at, enjoy and allow me to enter back into the world of education and further expand my choices for the future.

I am not alone.  There are thousands of women working all around the world doing exactly the same thing.  They are not being forced, they are not harming anyone else, they are looking after their own health and safety the best way they can, but for this awful stigma, that seems to rear its ugly head at every opportunity, where people genuinely feel abhorred by what we do and blame us for so many things that are not our cross to bear.

There are no cases of children under the age of 17 entering into Sex Work in Ireland for the last 5 years, although TORL would have you believe it.  The truth is, legally you have to be 18 to be a Sex Worker, although the age of consent is 16 and some 17 year olds have been found to be working.  It is debatable as to if this was of their own free will or not, but either way they are not 12 year olds, who are not sexually mature enough mentally or physically.  They are young women, well over the age of puberty and sexual awareness.

While we are fighting the myths of the Sex Worker in Ireland, there are children still to this day, being used as bait, betrothed and married to men decades older than themselves with no choice.  Perhaps it is time to put this into perspective and stop with the mythology of the sex industry and that men are rapists and the Sex Workers are all abused by men that don't care and use their bodies as vessels. It is not like that.  Even the women that choose Sex Work as a last resort, will have clients that they enjoy the company of, they enjoy spending time with and feel comfortable with.

Now you may feel it is important to save those that do this as a last resort, but how do you propose to do that?  By taking away their last resort and offering them what exactly?  Free education?  Would that be education that they need or want or what you think they should have?  A while back I was asked if I would take part in a documentary where they took Escorts from their work and educated them into being designers and they would create their own line of clothing.  They were all very excited at the concept of re-education and giving these girls a better life.  Without a seconds thought I said no.  The reason being is that all I could see was being exposed, so that my family and friends would know what I have been doing and I choose not to disclose that information and I don't want to be a designer.  I already have a degree and higher qualifications and personally I believe the clothing industry to be a volatile one, so why would I put myself in that position?

My point is these 'people' all seem to think that we start from nothing and can be picked up, educated and moved on.  It's not as simple as that.  The majority of Independent Escorts are very well educated.  You have to be in order to run a business by yourself, as we're not allowed to employ anyone to help us, as that automatically puts us on shaky ground legally, even if we employ someone to clean the property we work from, as no one is allowed to benefit from our earnings, although the TAX man doesn't seem to mind too much.

Dispel the myth, create regulations to help us, so that standards are kept and met.  Make it compulsory to have STI checks quarterly (minimum), make it compulsory to wear condoms for penetration.  Make it legal for two girls to work together for their own safety.  Have a list of licensed names of Escorts working, which needs to be renewed yearly (working names accepted).  This way the Police will know who is working where, if they wish they can put a cap on it, so they can regulate how many are working in each area and they then know they are working of their own free will and can help the ones that are not.  Far better to work with them, than against them.  Protect the ones that need protecting and create a better standard of health and safety for those that choose sex work.

There are far worse things happening in the world.  We don't deserve the stigma and the myths that are circulated in our direction.  Sex Workers are not evil, or dirty or without morals.  We are just normal people making a living.



Thursday 26 September 2013

Being Bonniest Baby at Butlins Led me to being a Sex Worker!

 
Ahh who the hell am I kidding?  And to be fair it was a ‘Mother and Baby’ competition, so my Mum was pretty hot back then too!
I was about three years old and in all honesty, I don’t remember a second of it, but we had a little silver cup for winning and I had that throughout my childhood and remember well, being proud of it and totally forgetting the fact that my Mum was in the competition too, as I was only interested in the fact that I won it!
 
Why, oh why, oh why, do adults have to make such a big deal and make something sexual out of something innocent?  Children like to dress up, they like pretty things that glitter and they like to pretend to be like their parents, so be prepared for the day your find your 5 year old is trying to walk in your heels, or your 3 year old son is ruining your best eye shadow, as they apply it all over their face.  Yes I found my son doing this!  I once found my panty wings stuck to his bedroom window too!  Should I have worried about that?
 
As far as I am concerned (as a Mother) if the child is enjoying the attention and likes to dress up and it is building their confidence and social skills, then what damage exactly does it do?  Here you have at least one parent, who is lavishing attention on their child and not sitting it in front of the TV, while they do whatever it is they feel is more important than their child.  These are the years of bonding and believe me if the child is happy, the bond they have with the parent/s that attend with them will be very strong.
Bless my Mother for yearly entering me into the pears soap competition and getting no where and bless my Sister for coming along and finally making her happy and making it to Carnival Queen.  I was such a Tom boy, she was never going to achieve her goals with me, but did I feel pushed, did I feel unable to say no or be myself?  Not for a minute.
People need to stop interfering; these things have been going on for decades and do no harm.   Why make a fuss now?  Where is the research that shows damaged children who have previously entered these pageants?
Oh gosh, the little tots are walking up and down blowing kisses and being told to smile by their parents!!! How awful?
 
It actually makes me quite cross.  It’s not just about beauty, otherwise why would they be asked to do an act, dance or sing etc.
You know what they will be doing next?  They will be stopping children from going to dance school, as I can assure you they often wear skimpy costumes and wear make-up, so where is the difference?
So… of course if the child doesn’t enjoy it and is obviously distressed, they should not be forced to participate, but then how many children have been forced to go to Brownies, Sunday school, swimming lessons etc?  Surely dressing up and role play is part of being a child and childhood?  It’s just another strand of how some children have fun!
If we would like to talk about child abuse, perhaps we should highlight the fact that some children get beaten, because they find it difficult to learn the kur’an!  Children that do a full days learning at school and then after school have to go to the Mosque and spend hours reciting and learning.
Or maybe we should talk about the children that come home from school hungry to no food and are left in front of the TV for hours on end, or let out to play with no knowledge of where they are or what they are doing until it gets dark?  You think these children don't exist?  Children that are either forced into situations they can not cope with or abandoned to look after themselves, because the parents can't be bothered?  Is it really so much better be ignored?
Does anyone try and help these children and threaten their parents with 2 years in prison for abusing their children?  Would they dare interfere?
We live in a sick world that has somehow turned on its head.  Things that are natural and innocent have been warped into sexual and ugly scenes, people that are enjoying consensual experiences are being victimized and stigmatized, for making choices other people don’t approve of.  Where is the equality in being told what you can and can’t do?  Where is the democracy, where anyone who does not fit in the box is said to not know their own mind?
Of course we need to care for the vulnerable and make sure that they are treated fairly and not abused, but please, can we stop looking for problems and victims where they do not exist?  Can we not treat people with a little more respect and accept that they may just not want to fit their round shape into your square box?  As long as the children are happy, as long as the consenting adult is happy, leave them to get on with their lives and get on with yours!


Thursday 12 September 2013

TORL - Blatant Manipulation and Lies by Government Funded Organisation

Yesterday while I was parusing twitter (as you do), I came across this delightful video created by TORL, that is packed full of lies and propaganda from the first second to the last.  I thought it would only be right to put a few details right, so that anyone who has watched this can identify with the truth and not the twisted manipulation of a group of people that just don't like SEX!

Here is the video...



Unfortunately I have not been able to add the video straight to the blog, but if you click on the link it will take you to it and you can still watch it.

It starts with...

800 WOMEN FOR SALE

This is a blatant lie, as NO woman is for sale.  Even the trafficked women are not for sale, as they stay with the pimp and are not going off to be used by the client for the rest of their lives.  

They have got this number by looking at how many adverts were up in Ireland on the day it was created and instead of differentiating and looking to see who is Independent, who is Agency and who is trafficked, they have decided that ALL these women are for sale.  This is NOT TRUE!  As one of the women currently advertising in Ireland, I can categorically say that I am not for sale and never will be.  I am a self employed businesswoman and I sell a unique skill base and my time.  Once the booking time is over, I am then free to take another booking or do something of my own free wish.  I have no one telling me what to do, or how to live my life.  I am 100% independent.

The above statement is 100% lie! 

19 Children found in Irish 'commercial sex' in 2012

I am still waiting on the actual figures, but the figures for 2011 are very different, standing at 6 (findings can be found at Blue Blindfold) .  The figures for 2012 have not yet been released, so this number is completely fabricated.  It would seem that their sources are non existent and literally plucked out of the sky.  After going back and researching from 2009 to 2011 (which are the only years with statistics available), there is nothing like the figure 19 to be found in any year.

At the conclusion of 2009 there were found to be 6 cases of sexual exploitation, including females, males and minors.  This is a fact!

In 2010 there were 15 alleged victims of sexual exploitation were minors.  Minors means anyone under the age of 18 and in this case the age range of alleged victims in 2010 as a whole, is between 17 and 48.  There is no evidence to support children younger than 17.
2 minors were referred to by the NGOs who got their information from Ruhama.  Ruhama have never reported findings of any male being exploited sexually.  However, the Garda have evidence of male's being exploited in each year group.

21 arrests were made under the criminal law of child trafficking and pornography, 1998.  Of which there have been 4 convictions and one awaiting verdict.

In 2011 - There were 8 alleged reports to the Garda of sexual exploitation.  5 female and 2 male.  There was one additional report of a minor in 2011 by Ruhama and in total to NGOs.

In total with regards to adults and minors, there are 20 ongoing investigations and one conviction for trafficking.  

There is no evidence of age range in this report, but as 2009 and 2010 state 17 as the lowest age range, one would assume it to be the same in 2011.

Please pay special attention to the word 'alleged', this means that at the time of press, these minors may or may not be victims and are under investigation.  There is no evidence to 100% guarantee that they are trafficked and working against their will when the word alleged is used before the statistic.

The most exciting information that I found during this research is that convictions are going through and arrests are being made in Ireland.  However, I believe this would be severely hampered if we were to adopt the Swedish Model of making the client a criminal. 

 As you can see in the table below, Sweden stopped getting convictions when they changed their legislation.  They are no longer able to gather the evidence they need to make a conviction, so the pimps and traffickers in Sweden are now untouchable!!!

This is a table of the Swedish reports and convictions on trafficking for sexual exploitation.

Up to 250 million: The amount pimps and traffickers

rob from Ireland each year.

This statement in times of recession is there to get your blood boiling.  It is another fabricated statement and there is no source or evidence to support it.  I believe they took this information from an article written in the Daily Mail recently, where ICI state that there were 29 children trafficked into Ireland over the last 3 years. However, this is just the opinion of a supporter and has no fact based source what so ever, so how can anything else written be supported?

Also if 29 is the official number over 3 years, that is an average of 10 per year, so where did 19 come from?  That is almost 100% more than previous years!  Where is their evidence for this claim?

With regards to the money.  Trafficked and pimped Sex Workers are very firmly in the minority.  If they have worked this amount out based on 800 workers, then a large portion of that income is taken up by Independent Escorts, who look after their own finances and much of that money is ploughed back into the Country in the form of accommodation, transport and food.  None of these things are free and they are basic needs for anyone living in Ireland.

Much of this money is not robbed at all, but legitimately made, through work that is legal in this country and will remain to be legal, even if the Swedish Model comes into place.  The money being earned off the back of coerced and trafficked people will not reduce, as there would be less convictions and the Garda would have less ability to charge those arrested, as they won't have any evidence or the support of the clients, who could also be blackmailed.

Letter written by  Paul McCabe, a TORL supporter.

How Old Are The Children Being Found?

We hear the word 'children' or 'minor' and we automatically think of a young defenseless child who is no way physically or mentally mature enough to be in such an adult environment, let alone being forced into a sexual act.  Any parent is going to be disgusted and outraged to be told that 19 children have been mistreated in this way.  However, the statistics show that the minimum age of the minors allegedly trafficked and coerced into prostitution is 17.  Yes still young, but no where near the average age banded about that most Prostitutes start working at 13.

To further dispell this myth that Sex Workers tend to start at 13 years of age, there has been a table compiled in America where statistics have been collated since 1981 to 2011 that shows this is just not possible.  This shows very clearly that most females and males enter Sex Work at 18 years of age.  It also shows a fairly high proportion of male Sex Workers, who are not represented at all in the Swedish Model and would remain to be vulnerable and unsupported.  I found it very telling that Ruhama had not assisted one male out of  Sex Work in the last three years.  This seems very sexist to me and unwarranted, if the end result is compassion to people exploited within the sex industry.

Here is the table and graph taken in America between 1981 and 2011


Using the statistics provided by Blue Blindfold in Ireland, it would be fair to assess that there is no recorded documentation of minors under the age of 17 working in Ireland.  I believe this again shows that the video clip is there to stir up emotions and concerns for children that do not exist within the Sex Industry, or are so very limited in number, they have not been found.  If the Swedish Model is introduced.  They will NEVER be found!

800 Written Submissions, 6 Months of Hearings, UNANIMOUS Recommendations

This statement is also fabricated or at the very least omitting facts.  Out of the total of submissions written I was told personally by Pat Nearly that 44 were written by Sex Workers and against the Swedish Model.  During the hearings only 2 active sex workers were invited to be heard.  Many other active sex workers had wanted to attend, but we were not allowed to and therefore we were not represented fairly or in proportion to those that were for the Swedish Model.

There is not unanimous recommendations, as 44 submissions were apposed.  This just shows again how the Sex Worker is being ignored and discounted.  Our opinion does not matter and even when we are represented, we are misquoted.  This is only possible due to the fact that the hearing where two Sex Workers were invited, was not recorded and the findings were not published.

The above statement again is a blatant lie and fabrication.

 Visual Effect

Even the visual effects are cliche and damning.  They show a man with dollars in his hands.  Dollars?  Since when has Ireland used American currency?  Could they not at least find someone with a wad of euros?

Red light shining.  This is NOT Amsterdam!  Ireland is predominantly made up of Sex Workers who work in private premises and they do not shine red lights from their windows, but work in a variety of locations from hotels to high class pent house apartments.  The majority of Sex Workers do not work in seedy environments, with drug and alcohol induced surroundings.  Most are sober and since we now live in an anti smoking society, many now don't even smoke, due to clients not wanting the smell and taste of smoke.

These cliches just shout the fact that TORL really don't know what they are dealing with.  They have not moved forward in attitude or expectation and this is no longer what Sex Work is about.

We are Doctors, Nurses, Trade Unions, Employers, Survivors, Farmers.... 68 Irish Organisations Say its Time

I know of someone who is a member of one of these 68 organisations and he is ashamed to admit it, but says that at no point where the members asked of their approval or opinion and he for one is not happy that the money  he contributes to that organisation is supporting this motion without the members consent.  This makes you wonder exactly how many of these 68 organisations took the decision to support to a vote and actually included its members in the decision.  Without the members vote, how valid is the support of the organisation?

TDs Have Spent 14 Months Debating The Laws

Tell them to Act

They have spent 14 months debating, because they are not unanimous and they are not privy to all the facts yet.  They need to be sure that the Swedish Model can improve the situation and all the statistics available suggest this is not the case.  When you compare the convictions in Ireland to the convictions in Sweden, Ireland is out of reach ahead of Sweden.  Ireland is actively supported and able to tackle trafficking and pimping and are not only making arrests, but convictions!  Why mend something that is not broken?  In fact more to the point, why break something that is not broken?

Organised Crime Gangs are Running

Irish Prostitution

As an active Sex Worker in Ireland I can hand on heart say I have never encountered any crime gangs and they are not involved in my work at all.  I know many Independent Escorts and not one of us, have any dealings with crime gangs and we all work for ourselves.

This is a fact and as such, this statement is another LIE.

Give 1 minute

Tell your TDs to Act on the Unanimous

Justice Committee Report on Sex

Buyer Laws

I urge you as an active Sex Worker in Ireland NOT to tell your TDs to act on the Justice Committe Report on Sex buyer laws, but to spend some time looking at the statistics I have offered on this blog and think about the real consequences of making the buyer a criminal.  Please consider that in Ireland today we have real help for Trafficked victims, as it is already a crime to pimp or traffic minors or adults and there are real convictions where these abhorant people are going to prison.  The same can not be said of those in Sweden, who are just going further underground and getting a firmer hold on the industry.  Sex between two consenting adults is not a crime!

2011
Please don't let these people get away with what they are doing.  If you really care about young women, immigrants, trafficked and pimped women you will write to your TDs and appose this motion, because with it, these tables will be empty and a thing of the past.

Ireland needs you to believe in it's Garda, believe in Ireland!

Sunday 21 April 2013

My Submission to DAIL

 
 
 
 
 
 

Submission to the Joint Oireachtas Committee on Justice, Equality and Defence
 by a Current Sex Worker
 
Review of Legislation on Prostitution 2012
 
Sex Worker
2/28/2013
 
This document reviews and analyses how new legislation may affect current
Sex Workers in Ireland, who are largely working free of will and how the Swedish
Model would have a negative impact on Sex Workers, including trafficked women
wishing to be rescued.
 
 

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Table of Contents
                                                                                                            Pages
1.      Personal Introduction                                                                              2  -  3
2.      Prostitution as a Positive to the Sex Worker and Community          3  -  4
3.      The Issue of Choice                                                                                   4  -  5
4.      Prostitution and Sex Trafficking Can be Separated                             5  -  6
5.      HIV/AIDS, STI’s and Prostitution Legislation                                         7  - 10
6.      Analysis of the Swedish Model                                                               10 - 13            
7.      Religious and Moralising Organisations                                                13
8.      The Sex Purchase Act                                                                               13 - 15
9.      Conclusion                                                                                                 15 - 16
10.  Resources and Information                                                                    17       
 
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Personal Introduction
I am a Sex Worker and have been involved in this occupation for approximately 4 years.  I started part-time in order to supplement my regular wage and soon discovered that I enjoyed the work and that I would be in a better position to pay off debts incurred through further education and maintain my financial responsibilities better by moving to full-time.
I am keen to improve my financial status and as such I do declare my taxes, so that I can get back into the black and pay off my debts in full.  I did have the option to continue in my previous work, but this would have meant moving away completely and my son was studying for his GCSE’s at the time, so for me it made sense to stay where we were and for me to continue with Sex Work. 
While I am working, I am also furthering my own education, to broaden my choices at a later date.  Where I am enjoying my work now, I can see that I will not always want to remain in this career and am making provision for my future, with the money earned. 
As a Sex Worker who works independently I set my own boundaries and work well within them.  I vet all my clients on the phone and if they sound abusive or misogynistic I refuse the booking.  I am also at liberty to terminate a booking at any point during the time paid for, if I am not entirely happy.  I have created a website that reflects my personality and encourages clients that suit me best.  I largely enjoy the company of intelligent, polite and respectful men who are looking for good company.
In the four years that I have worked, I have never met a man who has abused me or encountered any violence.  I have never been forced to do anything that I was not willing to do and where I do need money to pay for the cost of living, I am in a position where I can refuse work if I do not feel up to it due to fatigue, illness or wary of the caller and always put my health and well-being before money.

With further regard to my health and well-being.  I attend a GUM clinic once every three months, where I have been honest and up front and told them of my occupation.  They give me all the tests available and I have been immunised against the Hep B virus.  If at any point I have any concerns with my health, I am at liberty to attend the GUM clinic at short notice, with their blessing and assistance.  This information is anonymous and not held on record, which is reassuring.  To date I have never had an STI and I believe this is because I am careful about how I work and precautions taken.  I have a variety of condoms at my disposal, shower, lubricants etc.  I would never entertain bareback sex and believe regulation would help to further reduce STI’s generally within Sex Work, as up to date certificates would be a transparent way of making sure Sex Workers are clean and safe.

I have been working around the UK and Ireland touring for the last two years.  Currently I work alone, although I feel there are many advantages to working in pairs, as this again would reduce the possibility of any abuse or violence, especially for the younger girls, who are still picking up life and social skills.  I currently work from apartments and hotels and work discretely, so that other residents or guests are not aware of what I am doing.  I believe discretion is important and would continue to be whatever the legislation.  I personally would not choose to work for an Agency, Brothel or be a Street Walker, but if ran correctly I’m sure they could be good avenues to take, as long as it is their choice, then it should not matter where you work.

Prostitution as a Positive to the Sex Worker and Community

Like most jobs there are negatives to Sex Work, but the majority of Sex Workers do choose to be in the occupation.  It is a relatively easy job to start up in, with no training needed, although if you want to do well, you do need to be good with people and have a reasonable skill base.  You work within your own boundaries and offer what you are comfortable with.  No one tells you how much to charge or how to run your own business, so it is up to you as the Worker to do your homework and decide what you are willing to offer.

The wonderful thing about this line of work is variety.  We all work differently, even though essentially we offer the same thing.  For many of us there is a huge sense of community and we look out for each other to make sure that there is someone covering our back and if we do get into trouble, then there is someone to call and get help.  We also share information via the internet, so that we know who the bad men are and can avoid them.  This is an invaluable part of the working community and it would be tragic if we lost it, due to no longer being able to advertise or communicate on the internet.  We would be placed in a lot more danger, as we would only be able to rely on our own source of numbers.  For this reason it is vital that whatever future legislation comes into action, we are not removed totally from sight or unable to communicate with each other via forums, such as SAAFE and the Home Office approved ‘Ugly Mugs’ scheme in the UK.

Since I started working as a Sex Worker, I have gone from a woman who didn’t think I was compatible with the opposite sex, after a failed marriage and three short lived relationships, to someone who is genuinely looking forward to the day where I am able to start a relationship and be with someone where we are equals.  It is very easy to have your judgement coloured by the people around you and previous relationships.  I have also learnt not to be shallow and only entertain people that are attractive to me.  I have seen so much inner beauty in men that I deemed to be ‘average’ I no longer use looks as my first base of call when judging men.  I believe I have become a much better, more tolerant and caring person for it.

Sex Workers work with all walks of life.  We provide company, for many different reasons and rarely as selfish as just wanting to have sex with a woman for the sake of it.  We are designed to be emotionally and physically close to one another.  The first thing you do when greeting someone is to hold out your hand or hug them.  Yet there are thousands of men who live totally isolated lives.  Be it due to location, work or social deficiencies they have not had the experience of being loved, or being in a relationship.  They may never have had a girlfriend; they may feel too shy to ask anyone on a date or just not had the opportunity. These men need intimacy just the same as the rest of us.  We all need to be hugged, to feel close to someone and it is perfectly natural to want sex.  After all, we are programmed to procreate and it is a perfectly natural urge, but some never get the opportunity to fulfil that urge.  I don’t think any of us would want them to live totally sexless lives, so there is no better alternative than paying a Sex Worker.  There is no deception, as we both know that it won’t go further, no one is drunk, so it is with full consent and we can enjoy the experience for what it is.

There are then, the elderly or the disabled.  Men that have had good loving relationships, but perhaps their partner has passed away due to old age and they are left with many years  in them and still have the feelings, but most of all miss just being with someone and the closeness.  Often they don’t book for the sex and don’t always indulge.  In fact it might surprise you to know that many men do not indulge in full intercourse, but prefer companionship and the intimacy of being held.  They are givers by nature and need a way to outlet that emotion.

Disability is one of those words that have a whole host of meanings.  There are many disabled people who have never let their disability stop them and that also include relationships.  However, for some life is not that easy and they are dealing with the side effects of their disability.  This might be unable to communicate, immobile, unable to move body parts or show/recognise emotion.  These people still have the same urges as everyone else and still want to feel close to another human being.  They don’t want to be pitied, they want to be liked and enjoyed, like everyone else.  Why make life even harder for them, by telling them they have no other outlet than finding someone to love them?  Isn’t it hard enough to find love even when you are the classic alpha male?

I personally have met men that are suffering with depression, suicidal, going through divorce, recovering from divorce, virgins in their 40+, have Asperger’s and various physical disability’s including one young one man who was bed bound and unable to use his own hands to give himself relief.  He showed me his testimony and as a fit young 15 year old he had a perfectly normal life, but by his mid 30’s he was waiting to die and wishing he was dead.  If my being with him for a little time made it easier to be alive, then who could possibly say it is wrong?   With a bright mind, but unable to communicate clearly and decaying body, what alternative does he have?  It’s all very well to say, ‘then why don’t you see him for free?’ Yet would you say that to any other professional service provider?  Not forgetting the fears of rejection where there is a selection process.  This eliminates that do a degree and allows uncomplicated consensual unions.

In this way I think that Sex Workers do provide for the community.  We keep relationships that would likely die alive, so that families can stay together, we help to heal the wounds of those that are dealing with separation and divorce and maintain the man who works all hours and doesn’t have time to get into a relationship, but doesn’t want to risk hurting someone with a one night stand.  We give back the confidence, we help to unwind and de-stress and bring laughter back to those that had forgotten where it was.

These men are not abusive, violent misogynists.  They are men that want to feel whole and seek it with someone who is able and at a price gives their consent to intimacy that normally takes time and commitment to receive.  There is no pretence, no dishonesty, just a clear cut agreement of what the terms will be and a willingness to enjoy each other’s company.

The Issue of Choice

Where before the introduction of the internet it may have been in the main rarely a freely-entered choice, being set against a backdrop of abuse, poverty, low self-esteem, debt, addiction etc., I no longer believe this is the case.  Today’s Sex Worker is using the occupation to take control of their life and help them to take the foot up to bigger and better things.

It is widely acknowledged that women now turn to Sex Work to see them through further education and career based qualifications, or to subsidise their wages.  I have known ladies who have entered into Sex work from various fields of work, such as lawyers, Nurses, Teachers and many more.  These women have used the Internet to set their path and advertise their work.  They have no outside influence and are happy and willing, as it means they can fit their work in around their studies or jobs and fill any financial short fall ensuring that they are not left with a huge debt at the end of their studies.

Many jobs do not allow the flexibility needed to sustain a second job and ensure enough wages to pay for today’s increasing costs.  Where Sex Work is not suitable for everyone, it is an invaluable option for those that is does suit and is very empowering, with reaching goals and expectations.

In this way I do not feel that anyone who is working of their own choice should be discounted as ‘selfish’, saying that if they are able to earn money in other ways, then they should, but to understand that there are women who are happy to provide sexual gratification for those who want to buy it, as a way of income; which is not based on greed, but based on prospects, be that further education, seeing family through their schooling in a safe, warm environment, or starting a business with the capital earned.

I do not believe that poverty or debt are good reasons to say that there is no choice, as everyone works for an income and to raise their standard of living.  Sex Work is no different in that respect.  Many women choose Sex Work for its high earning potential, but also because of its flexibility and the opportunities it offers for the future.


Prostitution and Sex Trafficking Can Be Separated

There is no evidence to suggest that women and girls trafficked echo those of women who otherwise find themselves in prostitution.

Most Sex Workers enjoy a healthy relationship with the Garda/Police.  While these lines of communication stay open, it will be relatively easy for them to know which ladies are working of their own free will and leave them to look for the ones that are not.   There is also a crime line number that is known within the Sex Worker community and anyone found to be working against their will would be reported.

There are certain areas that are to be avoided by Sex Workers, as they will have increased trouble there, with regards to fake bookings and intimidation.  These are the areas where Agencies are known to be active and by working together, we should be able to locate where they are, which phone numbers they are using and who is working for them.  In this case there is no ‘honour amongst thieves’ as you might think, as we do have compassion and do not want to see women working against their will.  However, working for an Agency does not automatically equal trafficked, as many foreign women do use them as a stepping stone to finding work in a Country where they have minimal to no experience of the people or language and it is important to determine if the ladies are working of their own free will or coerced.
Looking at the figures supplied by the Department of Justice, Equality and Law Reform Summary report of trafficking in human beings in Ireland for 2009 there were 66 cases of suspected or potential trafficked victims in Ireland.  Broken down 8 of these were male, 49 female and 17 children (no gender given).  There is no evidence to suggest what they were being trafficked for, but it is to be assumed that some may have been trafficked for Sex Work.  There is also a possibility that some were not victims and proven not to be trafficked at all (13 were concluded as no evidence of trafficking), as they had not investigated this possibility for ‘potentially’ trafficked people at this point.
In 2010 there were 58 cases of sexual exploitation recorded, with 51 being female and 5 being male and yet we never hear of the male prostitute needing to be helped or saved?  There were also 19 cases of labour exploitation of which 8 were women and 11 were men.  Out of the sexual exploitation category 41 were adults and 15 were minors.  Bear in mind a minor is 17 or under in the Sex Industry, this should make it easier to identify, as they legally are not allowed to work within the Sex Industry and should be removed from it.

There are strong patterns of origin shown in the statistics that show a majority of trafficked humans coming from Africa, then with much lower numbers the EU.  This in itself negates the comment made by Ruhama that it is impossible to distinguish between willing sex worker and someone who is trafficked, as there are definite trends to be found.

In contrast there were 37 reported sexually trafficked victims in 2011.  34 were female and 3 were male. Of the 37 total, 7 were minors (under 18).  Again the majority were from Africa (29) with the rest divided between EU, Ireland, Asia and Latin America (in that order)
 
To further clarify the figures so they are up to date I spoke to Barra O'Duill, who said that figures for 2012, although at the moment estimated only show another reduction with 22 cases investigated in adults and 7 with children.  I assume these are reference to sexual exploitation, although this may not be the case.  Either way this shows a steady decline in cases over the last 4 years.  It would be fair to say that efforts were raised in 2012 with various raids on known Sex Worker sites and yet still fewer cases have been found.
These statistics show a strong element of control over the situation.  A good working relationship between the Garda and Sex Worker and that the Crime Stoppers line is also effective, where men who pay for sex may report any concerns they have for trafficked women within the industry.  This healthy and co-operative relationship for both the Sex Worker and the buyer will cease to exist if the buyer is criminalised, making it virtually impossible for the Garda to protect those who need it most.
 
HIV/AID’S, STI’s and Prostitution Legislation
Having looked at the records for STI’s in Sweden, there is a general increase in most areas, with Syphilis, gonorrhoea and chlamydia. (1)
                                                                                                                  2012
Chlamydia infection - 2012 - 37708 - / - 2003 - 26801 (43.1% men/56.8%women)
Gonorrhoea              - 2012 -   1098 - / - 2003 -      596  (69.4% men/30.5% women)
Syphilis                      - 2012   -    201 - / - 2003 -      177  (81% men/18.9% women)
There are two points of interest in these figures:  The first being that STI’s are continuing to rise.  These are general and not specific to Sex Workers, but would suggest that people generally are taking more risks in Sweden and not using condoms.  It has been suggested that Sex Workers in Sweden are scared to be found with condoms, as they are being used as evidence to criminalise their clients and this would be in line with these findings.  The second interesting trend is that there is a huge increase in STI’s with regards to men.  On a personal note, I am wondering if there is an increase of sexual activity between men, as this is seen as less compromising than the threat of criminalisation if found with a female Sex Worker?
 
Unfortunately Ireland does not have a database of facts in such an efficient order as Sweden, but I have found evidence, which I think will show that to bring in the Swedish Model, which may inhibit the use of condoms, would be a terrible set back to the already failing education for using precaution.
An article written by Deborah Condon from Irishhealth.com shows how Ireland is struggling to spread the word that the use of condoms is essential to prevent STI’s.  Here is the article.
Ireland has seen a big increase in sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in recent years. The trend is related in part to the economic boom, but also the fact that we have a young, very active population. In addition, because Ireland has had a very mixed attitude to sex education, attempts to provide clear facts to young people have been the subject of repeated controversy and some resistance.
A few years ago, the Department of Health launched a national awareness campaign,
'Think Twice Every Time'. Its aims? To educate and inform 18-35 year-olds about their relationships and their sexuality.
One of the reasons for the campaign was the rise in the incidence of STIs.

Speaking at the launch of the campaign, Health Minister, Michael Martin, said that the Government was setting out to achieve a major attitude and behaviour change.
"You can't run a fast campaign, toss out a bundle of leaflets and hey presto, people suddenly manage their sexuality differently", he said at the time.

Campaign failure
Of course, such a campaign needs to be carried out in a slow, measured and comprehensive manner. Unfortunately this did not happen - funding for the project was discontinued after a year in operation. Many aspects of the campaign, including a website, never saw the light of day and today, the incidence of STIs here continues to rise. It is a symptom of the lack of vision and understanding by some health authorities to serious issues. But it also points to the fact that many people are not being cautious in their sexual lives.
This is backed up by an article released thejournal.ie (3rd November 2012), which shows recent stats:
THE NUMBER OF cases of STIs in Ireland has risen significantly, with gonorrhoea now at the highest rate ever recorded for the country.
The report by the HSE’s Health Protection Surveillance Centre found there were 13,259 notifications of STIs in 2011, an increase of just over 12 per cent on the previous year.
Gonorrhoea cases increased by one third (33.4 per cent) to 834 cases, and the incidence rate now stands at 18.2 per 100,000 population – a figure that is significantly higher than the European average (10.4) as well as being the highest incidence recorded in Ireland. Men made up almost 80 per cent of cases.
The report was compiled using data from STI clinics, laboratories, and GPs. Other findings include:
·         Chlamydia remains the most common STI accounting for 48.3 per cent of cases last year.
·         Genital warts were the second most frequently reported STI at 18.5 per cent.
·         Almost 60 per cent of people with STIs were aged between 20 and 29.
·         There were 653 cases of syphilis in 2011, a slight increase on the previous year.
·         Genital herpes saw the single biggest jump in the number of cases with an increase of 39.8 per cent year on year.
As a Sex Worker who currently works in Ireland (2013) I can tell you that there are many men who do not understand how important it is to use a condom, but as a Sex Worker, I insist on them being used.  We are actively educating our clients to the risks of not using condoms and the majority of us will not entertain a client who is not willing to wear one.
There have been times where I have been asked if I will perform sex without a condom, or they have told me that they have had ‘the snip’ and therefore cannot get me pregnant, so will I allow bareback sex.  These kinds of requests tell me that they have no idea of why we insist on condoms and that they are not there to stop pregnancy, but to stop the spread of STI’s.
I am also very aware that Irish men rarely if at all attend clinics and do not attend regular tests to make sure that they are clean of sexually transmitted diseases.  They assume that they would know if there was something wrong, even though it is common knowledge that some diseases like chlamydia for example, have no traceable side effects in the majority of people who have it.  Yet this can stop their partner from having children if they pass it on without detection.
It is my opinion that Sex Workers offering unprotected sex should be illegal; regardless of their working status and that ladies who insist on using condoms for penetrative sex are legal, along with their clients.  This is legislation that I would be keen to adopt.
Health should be taken very seriously and it concerns me that Ireland is not already pulling out all the stops to ensure that their young people are not fully prepared and aware of all the reasons why they need to be taking full protection with condoms.  With this in mind, I think the Swedish Model would influence some Sex Workers to stop using condoms, especially if they have been targeted by the Garda and further exasperate an existing problem in Ireland that has not yet been combated.
Further to this there is also the issue of ‘stigma’.  In Sweden the criminalisation of clients has worked to further stigmatise Sex Workers and their clients and as such both clients and Sex Workers are not receiving the care that they need with regards to sexual diseases, including HIV/AIDS.  The information below states:
A fear raised by the Ombudsman was that the increased stigma would lead to worse prospects for health promotion and HIV-preventive work. It referred to UNAIDS, the Joint United Nations Programme on HIV/AIDS, that discourages criminalization for this reason: social stigma might influence the contact with social authorities, the health care system and the judicial system.
RFSL(2) also referred to UNAIDS and expressed its great concern for the Swedish situation: the organization has knowledge of several instances where HIV-preventive measurements aimed at clients were stopped with reference to the ban. It further believes that the point of view expressed by the evaluation, that “increased stigmatization is positive” is an almost counteractive attitude to harm reduction. For example, sex workers with whom the RFSL has been in contact have reported that stigma prevents them talking about their prostitution experiences when testing for HIV/STI. To strengthen the stigma will lessen the chances to reach people who sell sex and to conduct harm reduction measures, concludes RFSL. The organization also points out that HIV-preventive needs are greater amongst men who sell sex to men and transgender people, but that the official evaluation almost totally ignores this population. Studies done by RFSL showed that 38.5 percent of the men who sell sex never tested for STIs.
It is therefore possible that yet another negative consequence of the ban is an increased level of STI and HIV amongst sex workers and their clients. The Board of Health and Welfare, which also expresses concern about the consequences of an increased stigma, writes in its response that according to the 2010 Swedish UNAIDS report that only 18.5 per cent of drug-using sex workers used a condom during their most recent intercourse.
Conclusion
We believe that one has to look at several factors to understand the discrepancy between the stated success of the Sex Purchase Act and its documented effects. While there are some police, social workers and former sex workers who claim that the ban has indeed helped reduce prostitution and trafficking and deterred clients without any adverse effects, the reports and documents that have a scientific rather than ideological base do not support these success claims. Hence, as we and others have written elsewhere, we believe that it is in the ideological and cultural domains that the creation of the “unique” Sex Purchase Act and the above mention discrepancy must be found. It has to do with a desire to create and uphold a national identity of being the moral consciousness in the world; with notions or “good” and “bad” sexuality; with the whore stigma; with creating new forms of sexual deviancy; with a communitarian, rather than liberal, political culture, and perhaps above all: a stereotypical and uninformed understanding of prostitution. (3)
 As mentioned previously, there is already a growing trend in STI’s with regards to males in Sweden, which backs up the theory written above that men are at greater risk of not being treated for STI’s, which is on the increase.  With Ireland being behind with regards to sexual education and already unsupported with regards to educating people, this could be catastrophic to the population.
 Analysis of the Swedish Model
The "Swedish model" consists of several laws and regulations. The three main laws that criminalize or prevent prostitution involving adults are those addressing pandering, the forfeiture of rental apartments and rooms used for prostitution, and the purchase of sex. (4)
This means that Sex Workers if discovered by the Garda will likely find themselves evicted, as the landlords will be forced to drive them out or risk prosecution.  The landlord may have had no idea, but the second they are informed they would have no choice but to act.
In the Spotlight document ‘Prostitution regulation in Ireland: Which way now? It states that in Sweden prostitution is partially criminalised.  The purchase of sexual services is a crime, but the sale of sexual services is not.  The Swedish law aims for the promotion of equality for women and protection from violence.  It aims for the abolition of prostitution in the long run and for public support for this aim.
The first fault I find with this is the ‘promotion of equality’.  Sex work is not only for females.  Although it does have a majority female work force, both males and females can and do participate in prostitution.  If they are looking for equality in the work force, then perhaps they should be looking in other fields of business where the majority of managerial positions are dominated by men and men earn more than women when doing the same job.  Sex Work is one of the few occupations where a woman can earn money comparable with the higher end jobs that are normally denied them.  This IS equality!
Violence! Yes Sex Work can be a volatile and dangerous occupation, but no more so than serving in the Military, being a Nurse/Doctor or Fire Person, to name but a few dangerous occupations.  The work itself is not violence and should not be considered so, as long as both parties are consenting.  Yes it is good to have measures in place in case of violence, but it should not be presumed as part of the occupation.
It also goes on to say that the Swedish Model is based on the perception that all prostitution is viewed as exploitation and involuntary.  This however is incorrect and as such the reasoning behind it is unfair to both the purchaser and the provider.  As someone who has chosen to be a Sex Worker, I can categorically say that I am not exploited, as I am paid well for my services and only offer services that I am comfortable with.  I have the freedom to withdraw services at any point and I am at liberty to refuse services completely if I believe the client to be of any risk to myself.  
I chose this occupation after carefully considering my skill base, time available and flexibility; it is totally voluntary.  The majority of Sex Workers are Independent and have similar choices as myself. 
Being Self-Employed I am a registered tax payer.  Admittedly I do not use the title of ‘prostitute’ or ‘sex worker’ for my business due to the stigma attached and not wanting any impact on future jobs, but I am keen to pay my way and contribute to society.  This also allows me to claim expenses and build up on my credit rating, which will improve my future with greater financial options.  I think if Sex Workers were encouraged to feel that their work was legal and above board, more would opt to pay tax and like me contribute to Society financially.  This does not mean that the government are profiting from sex, but profiting from self-employed people offering a service, which is exactly how it should be viewed by all.
I am not sure where the law would stand on this if our client base were made to be criminals?  Would this not also make it even more ambiguous as the government could then be seen to be profiting from criminal activity?  Surely it is better to encourage transparency and participating in contributing to the Country, where we reside most from earnings, without fear of discord? Also, if the person is paying tax, is it not more reassuring that they are working of their own free will and not an illegal immigrant, in turn creating another way to monitor trafficking.
Returning to the Spotlight document it argues that the Swedish model means that trafficked prostitutes will be more likely to seek help and get out of prostitution as they will not be prosecuted for selling sexual services.  This makes no sense, as it is not illegal now, so what difference exactly is there to make it ‘more likely?’  Arguing against the approach it rightly acknowledges that ‘the criminalisation of the purchase of sexual services drives prostitution deeper underground, which makes it both more difficult to find and assist trafficked prostitutes and more dangerous for the prostitutes’.  I am inclined to believe this is closer to the reality and as such there would be less approaching for help, as they would find it harder to reach out to any help offered, plus with the clients being too scared to report concerns there would be less co-operation in finding them out and on a more mercenary note.  Sex Workers who do not wish to lose income will likely work elsewhere, leaving less choice for the purchaser; who may be more inclined to turn a blind eye, in the knowledge that his activities are criminal anyway.  Please do consider that the more law abiding clients may have stopped visiting Sex Workers, leaving the less sympathetic purchaser behind, possibly encouraging Sex Workers to agree to bookings they may have previously rejected.
There are very few statistics to be found with regards to how much prostitution there was before and after the Swedish Model came into play, but with the figures that have been presented it would be a fair analysis to assume that there is no difference in the amount of people selling sex, but the way in which they work has changed in order to avoid the negative consequences of the legislation.
Accordingly to the Malmö Knowledge Centre, the changing technology has resulted in the “hidden” (indoor) prostitution now making up four-fifths (80%) of the overall prostitution prevalence, compared to two-thirds (67%) before the ban was introduced. This would leave us with a similar total number of people involved in prostitution as before the ban, or about 1,500 people.
In its 2007 report the National Board of Health and Welfare summarized the situation in the following manner:
It is also difficult to discern any clear trend of development: has the extent of prostitution increased or decreased? We cannot give any unambiguous answer to that question. At most, we can discern that street prostitution is slowly returning, after swiftly disappearing in the wake of the law against purchasing sexual services. But as said, that refers to street prostitution, which is the most obvious manifestation. With regard to increases and decreases in other areas of prostitution – the “hidden prostitution” – we are even less able to make any statements.
The National Board for Health and Welfare. (5)
 In short prostitution has been driven underground and with it the trafficked minority, who would be even harder to find, rescue and help.  This also makes the lives of the voluntary Sex Workers harder and more susceptible to violence, which would not be reported for fear of future surveillance.  It also proves that the legislation ban cannot be claimed as a ‘success’ as they are not substantiated.
 Furthermore apart from not actually having any evidence of reducing Sex Work in Sweden it can also be said that:
The Sex Purchase Act can both be a hindrance to traffickers, but also a tool to improve market conditions, due to the higher prices for sex that the ban creates. (6)
This supports my belief that trafficking will become worse under this legislation and not work to improve conditions and accessibility to those who want to be found and rescued, but make more money for the sophisticated criminal.  This is further evident by the following statement.
Serious organized crime, including prostitution and trafficking, has increased in strength, power and complexity during the past decade. It constitutes a serious social problem in Sweden and organized crime makes large amounts of money from the exploitation and trafficking of people under slave-like conditions.
National Police Board press release March 2010 (6)
 The Swedish Model legislation to criminalise the purchaser is not effective in combating trafficking and in driving prostitution underground it has encouraged more sophisticated criminals, which have a tighter grasp and money interest on exploiting women for sex work.  This chart below shows the reported trafficked numbers and how many convictions generated. (7)

 A negative unanticipated bi-product of the legislation has found purchasers being black mailed and fewer convictions against traffickers due to less willing witnesses to step forward.
When it comes to clients, it seems they are less willing to assist as witnesses in cases in which profiteers who exploit the sexual labour of others are prosecuted, since they now find themselves guilty of a crime. Clients are exposed to blackmail and robbery, and the stigma associated with buying sex means people often have to leave their jobs and positions, even on a mere suspicion. (9)
Consequently the last convicted Pimp/Trafficker was in 2007, despite 77 cases being brought forward between 2008 and 2010.  This would support the theory that criminalising sex purchasers has made it harder to gain vital evidence in order for a conviction to be granted.
Religious, Feminist and Moralising Organisations
With regards to morals, this legislation is not really concerned with the morality of Sex Work.  It should not really be a factor in today’s society of whether it be right or wrong, but kept to the real facts that are about reducing trafficking and people (not just women and children) entering into a situation where someone else is profiting from them.  It should also be about making the job as safe as possible, with regards to violence and health and this won’t happen if we are further stigmatised by criminalising the very people that pay our wages.
It is difficult to see how representatives that are more interested in Feminism, religious beliefs and Morals can contribute impartially and I think the evidence shows this is the case with the existing Swedish Model as it stands.
On a final note it was concluded in the Etute-suede 2011:
Our stance when it comes to policy regarding prostitution is that it has to be based on knowledge rather than morality or radical feminist ideology. We also believe that when policy is developed, the actors at the heart of this policy must be adequately consulted and duly respected. In our opinion, this has not been the case with regards to “the Swedish model”. (10)
Isn’t this history repeating itself?  Is it not possible to learn from the mistakes of others and use them for the greater good of the whole community and not just sectors that disapprove?  This legislation helps no one, but will do a lot of damage to the very people it is alleged to help.
The Sex Purchase Act
The Sex Purchase Act was introduced by feminist policymakers who argued that prostitution is a form of male violence against women, that it is physically and psychologically damaging to sell sex and that there are no women who sell sex voluntarily.’ Furthermore, it was claimed that ‘if one wants to achieve a gender-equal society, then prostitution must cease to exist – not only for the above-mentioned reasons, but also because all women in society are harmed as long as men think they can "buy women's bodies". If the ban would have adverse effects for individual women who sell sex, or if it violates their right to self-determination would not matter. The gender-equal symbolic value of the Sex Purchase Act is more important.’
We already know that the highlighted statement is not true.  Many women are able to not just survive working within this industry, but prosper.  It is condescending to suppose that women do not know themselves well enough to succeed as a Sex Worker without some form of damage, in the same way they would know if they were suited to the Military, being a gymnast or a Scientist.  We all have different qualities to offer and select our work accordingly.
With regards to gender-equality and men not being able to see us as equals as long as they are able to “buy women’s bodies” is ridiculous.  More likely the objection is lack of control as many women control their men through their inherent need for sex and ration them depending on what they want from them.  It is the man that is being controlled and lacking gender equality in relationships and sometimes in the workforce.  Yet this goes overlooked?  It is also possible for women to buy time from men or use their bodies as a bargaining tool, using their marital status as a carrot, knowing full well that in the eyes of God they are not able to obtain sexual relief anywhere else.  The fact that some men choose to purchase sex makes that dangling carrot redundant and despite the fact they would argue not using their feminine charms to get what they want, it happens on a daily basis, with no one batting an eyelid.  At least with purchasing sex there is no game playing, not agenda and no deception.  It is a case of double standards. 
The overall implications of these laws is that no one can operate a brothel, rent an apartment, room or hotel room, assist with finding clients, act as a security guard or allow advertising for sex workers. This in turn implies that sex workers cannot work together, recommend customers to each other, advertise, work from property they rent or own or even cohabit with a partner (since that partner is likely to share part of any income derived from sex work). In addition, the law against pandering makes it difficult for the authorities to utilise harm reduction strategies. For instance distribution of condoms, although perfectly legal under the Social Services and Communicable Diseases Acts respectively, might be perceived by non-legal experts as encouraging prostitution, (4i)
The highlighted areas I would like to discuss.   If I am unable to rent an apartment or room, then I am being forced onto the street, which is putting me in greater danger and exposure.  If I am not allowed to advertise, then it means that I am going to have to go underground and offer different services to those actually offered.  This means I will have more clients asking for services I am not happy to offer and make complications that could lead to an assault.   Client recommendations are the best word of mouth way to know that you are dealing with a safe and trustworthy client.  All businesses operate in this way and give priority to good customers.  Cohabit with a partner.  This is the worst rule I have read so far.  This means that you are actively denying a Sex Worker a loving relationship.  Where are the equal rights for women when a woman is denied a normal life outside of work?  There is no relationship where the couple does not benefit from wages earned.  It is that which gives them stability.  How can a law be put in place to deny a woman a loving relationship or marriage?  I would imagine living a life without love would be far more damning and psychologically detrimental than a life as a voluntary Sex Worker; otherwise there would not be such a thing as a Swinger, where they actively seek out sex with strangers for their own pleasure.
Looking at Sweden it seems that the legislation has not worked to stop men purchasing sex.  They are either going to different Countries to indulge themselves or relating it to the same as a speeding fine, as the police acknowledge there is still a great demand for the purchase of sex.
Many compared the illegal nature of buying sex with speeding; it is illegal to drive a car too fast as well, and one might or not get caught doing it but it was still worth it. (8)
This is in line with a small survey conducted with 113 active sex purchasers in Ireland.  As you can see from the pie chart the majority said that they would continue to purchase sex, if legislation criminalised the purchaser.

Conclusion
To wrap this up as simply as possible I have to ask myself.  Would criminalising the purchasers of sex improve my life as a Sex Worker?  Without doubt and categorically it would not and I strongly believe it would make my life much harder and put me in unnecessary danger.  I would be constantly scared that I may be thrown out of the accommodation I was using.  I would be constantly worried about being under surveillance and my clients being made criminals and as such I would be involved in various court cases as an accessory.  I would feel unable to use local clinics in Ireland should an accident happen where a condom splits, in case questions are asked and I would not be able to tell them that I was a Sex Worker, as this information may be passed on to the Garda, who would then be checking my movements and questioning my clients.
Do I think it would help to rescue trafficked women forced into Sex Work?   Quite the reverse!  I think the nature of criminalising the client will force Sex Work further underground and with it the victims of trafficking.  I believe there would be more victims of trafficking, as the demand would increase in line with Independent Sex Workers seeking work elsewhere. 
Do I agree that all prostitutes are working against their will and violated?  How can I believe that when I am one and don’t fit that mould?  I personally have never come across anyone who is working against their will and I have met many women all over the UK and Ireland.  I interact with them on a daily basis on various forums and I have visited several in their work place, which ranged from homely to plush.  Many of the women were in further education, or had families and thought of Sex Work purely as a job.  There are no hang ups, no obvious side effects and in some cases we didn’t even discuss work, but normal day to day topics, as of the real world.
It is wrong to label a whole sector of society as incapable of knowing what is best for them.  It is wrong to suggest that they are not capable of making an informed choice and willingly choose to work in the sex industry.   It is a job that takes a certain type of person and is not suited to everyone.  It is not a job to be glamorised, but for those it does suit, it can provide a good quality of life, provide financial security and a path to a fulfilling future.  Some of us enjoy touring and enjoy visiting new places, new people and have more enriched lives.  It is a great facilitator.  I would also go as far as to say there is great job satisfaction to be had, where purchasers have made life changing differences to their lives, based on the experience they have had with us.  It does happen and it will continue to happen.  If you truly care about my life and my fellow workers, be them male, female or transgender.  Please don’t consider the Swedish Model of criminalising the purchaser.  It will only make things worse for the willing Sex Worker and those that really need your help.  The minority, the trafficked few!
 Sources and Information
1.       Smi – Smittskyddsinstitute
2.       RFSL – Swedish Federation for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender
3.       The Swedish Sex Purchase Act: Claimed Success and Documented Effects, by Susanne Dodillet and Petra Östergren
4.       Etude-suede 2011 – page 3
4i     Etude-suede 2011 – page 4
5.       Etude-suede 2011 – page 11
6.       Etude-suede 2011 – page 12
7.       Etude-suede 2011 – page 13
8.       Etude-suede 2011 – page 15
9.       Etude-suede 2011 – page 21
10.   Etude-suede 2011 – page 25