Where do I stand on being an Escort?

Hi again!  Well, I wrote this a few weeks ago on a forum that I go on Escort-Ireland and it's had a response that I had never imagined, so I thought perhaps I should share it with the rest of you and see what you think?  Here goes...

One of the things that I love about this forum is that people bring up lots of controversial topics and are as a rule readily willing to voice their opinion. It does sometimes feel that there is no middle ground though. You either go one way or the other and anyone who sits in the middle, just can't be telling the truth. However, that often seems to be where I sit.

This has caused me to take a look at myself. Am I trying to kid myself? Am I unintentionally just saying what the guys want to hear? Am I doing things wrong? The thing is, I don't know about anyone else, but I didn't get here by following someone elses example. I didn't have someone to show me the ropes and I've never worked in a parlour or been given a job description criteria, so I have literally taken my previoius business knowledge and sexual experiences and combined the two to present myself as Kate.

Having worked for myself before, I have found that what ever you are selling people want a good product, someone who knows their product and a fair price. If you are selling a product that is exclusive and well made, then people are generally happy to pay more and willing to wait for the product if it is being made bespoke for them. I believe that the same goes for Escorting. I try and give an exclusive experience and one that will not just satisfy, but be something to remember. I make an effort to accomodate in pleasant surroundings, set the mood, have drinks at hand and good bathroom facilities (including clean dry towels). I then present myself in a way that I hope will be desirable, seductive and enchanting. This list goes on.

Moving from the business side of things there is also the point of job satisfaction. I get an incredible amount of job satisfaction from Escorting. When you meet someone who is nervous, excited or disjointed in their own life and by the time they leave you they have a huge smile on their face and look totally at ease and happy, then you just can't not feel good about yourself. When you get told that because of you they gone out and met a lady and they are now happy for the first time in years, because you gave them the confidence to date again, you can't help but feel proud. When you're told that they haven't had sex in 7 years and finally they feel like a man again, or you're being hugged and kissed by someone who was desperate just to be close to someone and feel special... how can you not know what you are doing is right?

I am an emotional person and yes sometimes my moods swing and I can go from elated to frustrated, then angry to overwhelmed, but I think this is who I am, this is what maybe sets me apart. I really do give a part of myself to everyone I meet and I do geniunely enjoy myself. I do respond to touch, to kisses, to the chemistry that passes between me and some of the clients. I do feel desire and I do get wet and I do orgasm.

I can't say that it is the same with everyone I meet. To say that would be lying. Sometimes I am instantly attracted, sometimes I am taken over by the skill of the person I am with and some times I find myself liking someone and wanting to make them happy, sometimes it is all 3. Which ever it is, the response is not fake, but led by a willingness to please and be pleased. A desire for enjoyment and fulfillment for both of us.

There will always be times when you don't click with someone, or for one reason or another it is just not happening. Often you can tell by the phone call if there is a big character difference. If the person is abrupt, talks to you like you are a list of services and not a person, appears to have no idea who you are or asks you personal questions. When I come across people like this, I will usually tell them that I don't think I am right for them and they will need to look else where. I also have an age limit that I adhere to. I won't see anyone under the age of 21. I love young men, but younger than that and it feels wrong and I do have to keep within my comfort zone. I also won't see men over the age of 60. Yes there are some attractive older men and I have met some in the past, but I have also encountered men that reminded me of my Grandad and it felt wrong. Again it is my choice and I am happy with the decision that I have made.

It is important that I keep within my comfort zone and I also don't believe in over doing it workwise. The most men I have ever seen in one day while on tour is 5 and if I am honest, I was sooooo tired by the end of the day, I didn't work at all the next day. Since then 4 has been my maximum and that seems to be fine. However, if I'm not in the right frame of mind, or I'm tired, or I see someone for a longer booking, then I won't push myself. I want to give 100% every time and keep the smile on my face too, so for me it is important to work to a pace that suits.

The highlights have got to be the way that many clients treat me. I have been taken out for meals many times and had some wonderful times. I've been treated like a true lady, pampered, massaged, bought my favourite perfume (coco chanel) and introduced to coco mademoiselle, which I now have the perfume and the shower gel. I've been given flowers, chocolates, soda bread, cakes etc and quite frankly treated better than my ex husband ever treated me. It's wonderful to be appreciated, it's the most amazing feeling when someone (who doesn't need to) gives you something to just make you happy.

I'm not denying that there are down sides. There are times when you want to cry (or do in my case) when you get a zillion timewasters, or people trying to make trouble for you, or worse still other girls trying to put you down and break your spirit, but... being able to pay my bills, look after my son and save to make life easier in the future; being able to re-train in new skills and have a decent sex life without all the problems of a relationship and all the friends you make on the way, far ways out the bad side.

Of course it could be made better. I'd love to be able to be honest to my family and friends, but of course I can't. I'd love not to have to worry when touring that I may get kicked out of premises or have someone threaten me. I wish the government would stop trying to make out that all girls are trafficked and doing this against there will. Yes sort trafficking out, no one should go through that, but leave the geniune independent ladies alone and let them work in pairs, it's safer!

Something that might be difficult to understand, but is true. I've been single now for well over a decade. Before I started Escorting I was adamanent that I would not be in another relationship. I did not think that I was compatible with men mentally and where I still liked men, I just didn't think there was anyone out there for me. Thanks to Escorting I have learnt that I was putting way too much emphasis on looks before. What I had not considered is that where someone can start out being attractive and lose their attraction as you discover their true character, the same can be said in reverse. A good person has an inner beauty that sometimes is not apparent on first look, but when you get to know them, they really do shine. I've also found that people who I enjoy the company of and am sexually compatible with are good for me. I want to be with them and look forward to seeing them.

So... maybe, when I retire I will give myself a chance to settle down after all. I'm not ready yet, but I'm getting there and that is thanks to you!

ps I know there are a couple of spelling errors in here and when I seek them out I will correct them, but until then, please ignore them and accept that I was engrossed in what I was saying, which led to the mistakes.  I am only human after all x